My Future mother in law

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Aww wow well baby pay her no mind like him.. She is sad smh if she not helping no need to ask ques.

Uhhhh awkward! I would just try to ignore it and leave it up to FH to deal with lol

Good morning

I could be wrong..I've been wrong before but I think you should leave it alone...speak only to your FH. I feel like that's his issue to address not yours.

I don't like to confront my future MIL, so I always just tell my fiance to talk to her when I need answers or something cleared up. I think that would be your best thing to do is let your fiance handle it since it's his mother. But for real...like the other girls have said, it's none of her business!

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If he isn't going to tell her how inappropriate her line of questioning is, I would. "That's just how she is" is a BS excuse for not correcting darling mommy before. I would very politely tell her "We've got our finances in check, thank you very much for your concern. However, how much we spend and what we spend it on is not anyone's business but our own." and leave it at that.

Leave it be. This is an issue for your FH and not you.

However it might be worth having a discussion with your FH about how comfortable you are sharing your finances. Once you are married, if you are combining finances in any way, those questions from his mom will reflect on your finances too, and I think it's okay if you want to keep some things private. You should definitely be on the same page about it or at least find a compromise that you both feel comfortable with.

She has no business knowing how much you and your FH spend . The relationship is between ya’ll especially since I’m assuming, she’s not living in the same house as you.

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No ma`am, she lives in a completely different state. But now I'm feeling some type of way about her!

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RIGHT!!! That is how I feel ta this point.

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So sad smh well don't worry you already know what kind of person she is as you can see

I would definitely be caught off guard if someone started asking me a lot of personal financial questions.

Not that you would necessarily know specifics, what do you think her financial situation is? Could this be an issue of her feeling insecure with where she is financially, or is this a not so subtle hint that she's thinking y'all aren't being financially responsible (a question only the two of you can answer, but do make sure you ask yourself and are being honest since we're on the topic!).

If you are paying for all of these things yourselves, there are definitely ways you can be coy about it, telling her you don't typically talk about finances, the cost of the ring doesn't matter it's the meaning behind it, you set a budgeted amount for your car/house/vacation and make sure to shop within your means/budget, etc. If she's contributing any financial support for the wedding or sending y'all a check every month, she likely wants to know where her support is being utilized - if this is the case, sit down and have a direct conversation with her about it.

Since this is your husbands mother, definitely get him involved. If the two of you agree to humor her and answer these questions, have a unified strategy on how to answer. If not, he needs to have a private conversation with his mother, and if she persists in the future he needs to remind her that they have discussed not going into personal finances.

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I can't have said it any better!!! It's none of her business!!

Time to set some ground rules. Next time she does this, say it makes you uncomfortable being asked about things private to you as a couple, like your finances. So let's talk about something else. Say it every time she inquires about cost of something of yours ( yours or her son's, or yours as a couple ). You are adults now, a new family. And do not need to share everything with your parents. She needs to mind her business, and get her nose out of yours. Never answer such questions. Always say, that is private, then change subject. Consistently. She will get sick of no answers and stop .