My fiancé doesn’t want his brother officiating our wedding :(

I think I understand where your fiance is coming from.

We had a different situation - Our original celebrant had married my fiance's brother and his wife, as well as my best friend and her husband, so we both felt like she had a connection to the family and it was a bit of a 'sign', type thing - we never considered asking anyone else and knew from the get-go we wanted her.

Well, we had to postpone, and our celebrant somehow managed to double-book us after saying she was available.

She suggested a new person and I remember after interviewing the new lady, I called my mum SO upset, saying I just couldn't quite get my head around this new woman, and that I didn't know if I didn't like her because she was associated with the old celebrant who had screwed us around and so I'd (rather unfairly) formed my dislike of her on that, or if maybe she just wasn't for us, or what!

My mum said that even though the ceremony is the reason for the day, basically, that it's only 30 minutes of it, and when she got married they didn't get an opportunity to choose who it was, it had to be the pastor of their church, and it was just fine. She also told me that at the end of the day, as long as we're legally married, we don't need to really vibe with our officiant or have some special connection - many people don't, and they're no less married, which is so true!

It really helped me feel better about things.

In the end though, the replacement woman told us another of her couples was postponing to our new date and she felt obliged to do their wedding as they were her original clients. But we found someone who we like a lot more and honestly - the new person is better than our original celebrant, AND cheaper, even if she doesn't have that connection that the first one did.

You're so welcome! I know I rambled a bit to get to my point, but basically, it IS a very short portion of the day, and it honestly doesn't matter who it is, as long as they are legally allowed to perform the ceremony.

You have to assume that your fiance knows his family best and has his reasons for making this choice. I read once about a brother who had been asked to video his sibling's wedding and he said he was so resentful - he had the worst seat in the house up on a balcony somewhere getting the film and never felt like he truly got to see his sibling get married the way he would have liked - so maybe your fiance is worried his brother will feel that way too!