My fiance does NOT LIKE one of my bridesmaids!! HELP!!!

Well what would you want him to do if you felt so disrespected and bothered by someone he chose as a groomsmen? Would you expect him to respect your feelings above all others? Would you want him to care about who you are comfortable having as a part of your wedding? I'm betting you would expect him to listen to you and respect your feelings so you should do the same for him. I would never have forced someone on my husband that he was uncomfortable with, no matter what his reasons were. I'm sure it's tough since you already asked her but this wedding has to be a partnership, just like your marriage. You should have things in it that you BOTH agree on. Compromise is everything. I'd say don't make any major decisions with the wedding without talking it over with him first from now on, and in life as well. Hard lesson learned. Good luck!

I agree with Laura, as hard as it may be just think if the shoe was on the other foot. Would you want him to have your back? This wedding is about both of you, try to find a compromise if possible but if not then really think about who you want to disappoint, your FH or a friend. Remember that choosing your friend sets a precedent in your relationship with your FH.

I agree with both PP. I had the same thing happen with one of my long term childhood friends who, at the beginning of my FH's and mine's relationship, wanted me to be single and was constantly trying to break us up. I have known her for 20 years and I'm not even inviting her to the wedding since my FH can't stand her. I want us to be happy since it's his wedding day too!

I had the opposite problem and my the groomsman is no longer in the wedding.

I agree with PP. I have a friend who I have known since HS, but she caused a lot of problems with our relationship (trying to get me to break up with him and go party every night and more) and now she is not invited to the wedding because my FH doesn't want her there for all the things she did. It is his day too so I agreed not to invite her to the wedding. I also think that if you chose your friend over your fiance you may not be ready to get married. Your FH (and family when and if you have one) should come first before your friends.

I have the same problem in a different way. Fh and a aunt by marrage don't get along. I can't exclude her from the guest list unless I exclude her husband my uncle. I do agree with PP your FH feelings should weight more than the friendship.

Same here! My FH can't stand a close family friend of ours who has known me as child because of serious landlord/tenant friction and issues they had when he was a tenant of hers in the past. Though I understand him, I would have still wanted her to be a guest at our wedding because of our strong family ties/relationship. But because he does not want her to be apart of our special day in anyway, she will not be a guest at the wedding. It's going to break her heart when she finds out that she is not invited but I have to give him the respect in the matter. As well, I just don't want any tension and negativity that day between them where he would be distracted and not focused on our marriage and the celebration. It's all out us that day and that's they way I look at it.

I can't really say anymore than the other posters have. He is obviously very offended by this woman and rightfully so.

Same thing... but I dont like his Best man! I think his best man will back out of the wedding anyway and leave him hanging (cause that is what is always does) But this is both of our days and it is only fair for him to be as happy as me! No worries it will all work out...

My FH does not want my sister in the wedding party but she can attend the wedding. She is very offended. My mother thinks I should have her in but I don't even want her in...you gotta go with hubby on this one!

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I would suggest to express this to her and going from there. If she is a true friend of yours, she will understand your decision and acknowledge that she wasnt supportive of your relationship. If not, it is her loss. His feelings should be respected, as well!

I have a similar situation at the moment. A good friend of mine expressed nothing but hatred for my (at the time) new boyfriend after he reached out to her to show his good intentions with me. He has since proposed and does not want her in the wedding party or even attending the wedding. She seems to have cooled off and said she was happy for my recent engagement (via text), but we dont want people there who arent supportive of both of us. He wouldnt invite any friends who showed an extreme dislike for me. Its just hard since the friendship of her and I has been for so long and I dont know how to say the words. :/

I have a similar problem. Some years ago I met my fiance through a girl, which I knew at that time for quite a short time. She knew though my fiance and they were friends. With the time I became also friend with her but not so close.

We are about to marry with my fiance. He asked me whom I have thought to have braidmaid for our wedding. I suggested him a couple of our common friends but he replied that he has already agreed some years ago with the girl that introduced us to each other. According to her she should be his braidmaid on our wedding because she introduced us to each other.

I would rather have other one. I feel bad that neither my fiance nor my friend has ever said something about their plan. I said that to my fiance but he insists that she will be very disapointed, if she is not braidmaid for him at our wedding. So he decided for her. I feel bad about that - he chose her feelings ratter than mine. What should I do?

I am about to deal with the same issue. Not a fan at all of one of her choices, and even one of the other bridesmaids may pass on being a bridesmaid because of her.


This particular person went out of her way to make our vacation, which she was also invited on, very uncomfortable to the point others commented. I am even having dreams of her behavior to the point I woke up, upset because I believed this women said something to one of my grand babies!
Definitely thinking the future wife and I are needing to have a serious chat.