My family doesn't care about my wedding

You do what you want to do as long as it is appropriate! Have the wedding that you and FH want. You don't need to make others happy. This wedding is for YOU and your FH! What kind of things are they telling you not to do? Do you think there's a reason why they are treating you this way?

If you are paying for it, then you should have the wedding you want and can afford.

Well they think because they just went to the courthouse everyone should and I shouldn't even care if my future step kids are there... They didn't even see a need to buy a wedding dress....

I don't think you should elope unless you want to.

Change your attitude, since you can't change them. Don't react to their comments and certainly don't bring up your wedding to them.

Your wedding, the way you want it, will be satisfaction in itself

No one is going to be as excited for your wedding as you are. That being said, I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. It sounds like they are just being negative. Have the wedding you want (that you can afford) and they can kiss your behindZ

These people are like this in EVERYTHING... But yet they can justify buying Mercedes and luxury cars.... See what I am saying... There are luxurious things they want and they pay for it and it makes them happy... That's great celebrate what makes you happy cuz I think it's great..... Sooooo if they can do that with their money why can I invest in what I find valuable? It's my money and my day... Why are they giving me grief over my financial values? Know what I mean?

Well for starters not everyone will be as excited.

Secondly, maybe you don't have to talk wedding with them. I'd rather not talk about the wedding to people who only have negative opinions about it. Why bring yourself down?

Also, what others think about your wedding is not important so long as you are properly hosting.

Have the wedding you want and don't let these things get to you.

It's your day with FH to celebrate your love how you choose. The two of you are paying for it, so it's your call. Don't let anyone's negativity bring you down! You are allowed to be happy, even if no one else is

Of course your future step children should be there. That's a non negotiable and it would be wrong if they were not there. Your wedding is a big day in their lives as well as you become their step mother and their father gets married. You do you girl. Get yourself a beautiful wedding dress, have your dream wedding, and if they have a problem with it then that's their issue! They can choose to respect it or not to. Either way, put their comments on the back burner and have the wedding that you want.

Are they paying for any of it?

ETA: just saw that you're paying. Yeah, forget about their comments. You both treat yourselves to the wedding you want. Sorry they're giving you a hard time

STOP discussing your wedding with your family. Problem solved.

No they aren't paying for a thing....

You don't need approval from your parents about your wedding if they're not paying for it.

Also, keep in mind that a wedding and a marriage are two different concepts. I'm sure they're happy you're getting married - and that's the important part.

Now stop talking to them about the wedding.

"Why are they giving me grief over my financial values?"

Because you are letting them.

That's all my parents said when I was looking at venues. Once I booked my venue, they knew there was no changing my mind and no turning back. FFIL had been a headache and teasing me about the things I want and I am almost at my breaking point with him but I've decided that no matter what he says, even if I eventually breakdown and cry and have a sobbing session, I'm going to do what I want (minus crazy nonsense.)

This is exactly what happened to me and you really just have to stop caring about what they think, sadly. Seriously stop discussing plans with them.

No one is going to be as excited about your wedding as you are. If they are ruining this time for you then stop talking to them about it.

Have the wedding that you want, as long as it's within your means.

It's no ones business what you spend your money on, and vice versa. Someone might think it's worth spending all their excess money on fancy cars where others feel that it's a waste - yet they think it's fine to buy VL purses. Everyone has a splurge, and as long as they aren't affecting others and ruining their lives because of their splurge then it's really no ones business.

Dont let your family bring you down. Your wedding is suppose to be a happy experience! You deserve to do what you want how you want to do it! If they dont like it they dont need to be invovled or there! You and your finace are paying for everything so the decisions are in your hands! Good luck and know that your day will be beautiful no matter what!

Don't talk about it to them.

I guess I stupidly thought the negativity would stop but it hasn't... I am hosting a wedding well within my means I have been very selective on my choices and have utilized all my resources... Such as I have a pastry chef friend who does wedding cakes, she is making mine at an amazing discount, I have a florist friend who is doing my floral arrangements for just the cost of flowers, my fiancé fAmily member has a bbq cooking team he's doing it we are just paying for the food itself, and I have a good friend of a friend who does photography she's gifting me with her photography services, everything else I have gotten on sale and I'm even having my wedding on a Thursday to save costs... I mean it's incredibly less expensive than most weddings and the other stuff like linens and stuff like that I am buying on sale and doing myself... I just don't understand what their problem is.. Part of me thinks it's simple; some people want you to have good in life but some don't want others to shine.

At the end of the day, the wedding is yours and you FH, not anybody else's. If they do not like what you are doing, especially since they are not paying, too bad, it is not their wedding

Do what you want to make your day perfect!