my excitement is gone...

I second Jillian. I have kept my sanity by taking the mindset of "if x happens, we will still be married". If the centerpieces are hideous, we will still be married. If no one shows up, we will still be married. If the food isn't as delicious as we thought, we will still be married. It has helped to lessen the stress to know that whatever happens, I am going to end the day his wife. I hope you can re-find your joy around planning soon. I am sure your day will be fabulous!

I remember feeling that way a couple months before my wedding. I wanted to just elope and be done with it. However, remember that it really is just a party you are planning and no one cares about it as much as you do. You don't *have* to do everything on the checklist. Do you have someone you can delegate something to? I know when you're detail oriented it is hard to let go of anything but may be worth it.

Thank you all!

Kia- i needed to hear that! that is such a great way to look at it! idk why i'm even freaking out so much. i have A LOT done. i have my dress, venue, dj/photographer, caterer, my shoes, veil, you name it, it's prob done. i made all my centerpieces, bouquets, boutineers, i have my table cloths, etc... i just still feel behind. i'm still trying to figure out the whole officiant thing, and some small things still...

i'm feeling a lot better after hearing from you all! thank you guys so much!! i'm glad i'm not alone.

I hope everyone considering eloping reads this. Because I hear it every week. Planning becomes a full time job, everyone has an opinion, and it costs a fortune.

If that's not what you had in mind, step away. You'll be just as married at the end of the day.

I agree with @celia, before we even started planning I was very into the idea of parents/siblings and us and a dinner. I can still do that, but now I'd have to pay large cancellation fees to do it. Should have trusted my gut initially.

Edit: it got way out of hand when everyone else got involved, as it usually does. It's still small, but turning into the extra formal event I didn't want.

I know how you feel. This is what I do, and maybe it will work for you:

1. Take 24-48 hours not thinking about planning, the wedding, or anything that relates to it.

2. During this time, do something that makes you feel better, whether it's a lazy day on the couch watching your favorite show, or a day at the spa, or get your nails and hair done... whatever YOU enjoy doing.

3. At the end of the 24-48 hour period, start getting back into planning mode by first doing the parts that you want to do, then what needs to be done first.

4. Go on a date with the FH and spend some time talking to him and picking his brain. Mine tends to be a fantastic problem solver and if I'm overthinking or over stressing, a lot of times just talking to him and getting his input makes it a lot easier.

Hope that helps.

You are not alone- I also feel the same way. There have been so many issues between my FMIL and my fiancé and I. It has made this planning process double as stressful for us, and I wish we had just eloped from the beginning.

Our wedding is a little over two months away, and I broke down and hired a Day of Coordinator. Even though I am already over budget, I decided for my own piece of mind and sanity to hire a DOC because they will help with all the final details and everything that REALLY gets stressful the month before. Truly hoping it is worth the money, but everyone I've spoken to said it was for them!

It is true- at the end of all of this, you will have a husband and a lot of amazing memories. My suggestion is to take it task-by-task, as looking at the entire to-do list is extremely overwhelming. Give yourself reasonable personal due dates to get things done (I changed my due dates on this checklist multiple times).

I hope this helps!