my excitement is gone...

Remember what you also get the day of the party you're planning--a husband!! We can get so caught up in details and choices but literally at the end of the day, you're married and that's what matters.

You are not alone! I started feeling anxiety at the beginning of the year. I had such a backlog of to-do stuff but didn't want to sit down and get anything done. I had (have) wedding anxiety dreams. It's getting better. I'd say last week was the pinnacle of my anxiety so far. I spent 3 full days looking at shoes online. I couldn't sleep. I know it's silly, but I was losing my mind stressing about finding the perfect shoes. I felt much better after pulling the trigger and purchasing. I also ordered my belt, booked transportation for guests, and booked our wedding night hotel. I think the more you check off that's on your mind, the better you feel. I'm sure it'll all work out!

I hope so! i think i'm just so worried about everything not coming together. i second guess everything. i have to literally research everything. i'm driving myself crazy!!

It can definitely get overwhelming & then to have things popup; having to make changes on top of it! I tend to just back off of planning for a week & then I feel better. I also have TRIED to make a point to eliminate anything that we didn't love & that wouldn't affect the guests. Less is more for me : ) I know the less stressed I am leading up to our wedding day...the more we'll all be able to enjoy it!

You're not alone. At all. I feel like I'm so caught up in trying to do everything I'm not enjoying it. I have moments where I can step back and I get excited for a minute but mostly I'm just stressed and worried about it all.

Nikki-

that's exactly how i'm feeling right now

This post spoke to me in ways you will not believe. This is exactly how I'm feeling and I can't seem to shake it, I constantly have dreams about everything going wrong. We have most of our planning completed and have just short of 3 months to go, but I get extremely stressed out about the details and that I'm going to forget something important. I'm nowhere near a bridezilla, but I think due to my line of work (I'm a nurse), I'm programmed to be focused on details and have a little bit of a control thing. My fiance keeps reminding that it's not worth stressing over one day, every day, for over a year and just to have fun with it. Also, at least we have a honeymoon to look forward to!

Sarah-

i'm glad you can relate. and i'm sorry you're feeling what i am too feeling. i just want everything to be beautiful for the both of us. and i can't help but think everything is falling apart (when i know it isn't-we just had a few set backs)

i too am in the medical field, and have always been organized and pay close attention to details. i think it's just in my genes! hah i'm feeling better hearing from you all! i really appreciate all your kind words!

This definitely happens when you've done tons of planning, but you still have a long time to go. Just focus on some other things for awhile.

This is what planners are for. You want to be able to enjoy the day when it comes.

Plan little by little. Don't try doing everything at one time. That has certainly kept things fun for us. My fh is a huge procrastinator and the more you do the more he wants to put off so....... every weekend I picked a small task to discuss and/or do. Now, 33 days left before the big day and we are done besides the diy stuff that he watches me do. he isn't very crafty

What sort of "setbacks" did you have?

PaulGal-

i had posted a little while back what happened..back in september we picked our venue. we started making all other arrangements with vendors (dj/photographer/caterer) i thought everything was set... I was in constant contact with the lady we met discussing details, floor plans, etc with her. early this month i received an email from the lady who i was working with for our venue stating that the park the venue sits on was under management and decided they were no longer allowing weddings. there was only mine and another one planning to happen this year, but they couldn't come to an agreement in regards to this. we made the mistake of not having a physical signed contract, just email threads so we had to basically find a new venue, change our date, and pray that our already booked venues would have something open. they did and we were able to find a new place to have the wedding, we got a actual contract with the new place, but still had a lot of changes we had to make since our date was changed.

I know this is where a lot of my stress stems from. And i can't blame anyone but myself. i'm glad we got the big stuff handled. I still get anxiety because if it though.

I totally understand. It's not as much fun as I had anticipated. FH and I are arguing about stupid stuff, I don't feel that he's as invested in planning which makes me feel like I'm all alone in it. He says "baby it's your day do whatever you want", I don't like that. I feel like it's an excuse to make me do everything. I am excited to marry him but just wish he wanted to be more involved.

I'm so over wedding planning it's not even funny hahaha. I have 27 days to go and honestly, in addition to being a Mrs. I can't wait to have actual free time to do nothing. All my free time/days off have been wedding related. I'm so over planning.

I know how you feel. I've always dreamed of my wedding, but now that it's actually happening, I get anxiety and feel like seriously canceling the wedding. Since we got engaged last may, I've had health issues, a hospital stay, and a number of other issues, that I had to put planning on hold. I have even told my guy that I just want to cancel, but he, who would rather not have the wedding, would tell me "you don't mean that." Now that I'm recently back on track, my wedding is 3 months away; and I still have a lot to do. But, I'm excited about it now. I hope it gets better for you soon.

Yesssss I feel you. I don't even want to plan because it makes me feel so down for some reason. Like it's too much pressure and I'm on a budget.

I don't have any advice. So much went wrong during my wedding planning (not just wedding related, but life and work as well), that there were days I was holding on by a thread, and days when I couldn't hold on at all.

So I'm just sending you hugs. You aren't alone. We all feel like that sometimes. I hope things get better, just take it one thing at a time.

I think a lot of us are right there with you! My now fiance proposed on Christmas Eve...by the beginning of January I was already planning our wedding. I didn't want to wait a minute longer! We have our venue booked, DJ, Caterer, photographer and our cake all taken care of (well deposits are paid). I also have my dress, all my girls dresses and my boots....however, we are on a very tight budget. I don't sleep at night wondering how we are going to finish paying for everything, worrying things aren't going to work right, worrying I won't be able to afford to finish everything from wedding gifts, flowers, centerpieces and everything else that comes along.

I just keep telling myself "one thing at a time"...I think that's all we can do to try and stay sane until our big day. Good luck ladies!

I feel the same way and my wedding isn't even for over a year away. Although everytime I think about eloping, I know I would regret it.