My Dad's AWKWARD Girlfriend - to Invite Her or Not?

Yep, I think she should be invited.

Yeah I think unfortunately, she should be invited given the seriousness of their relationship.

As I've seen stated here before "they are a social unit" if you invite one you have to invite the other.

Personally I would be super offended if my FH got invited to a social event and I didn't whether I knew the people or not.

I think she should be invited.

Yeah I would say invite her. If it was something that had just started I can see not inviting her but since it has been at least a year...you should. Just think your wedding day will be busy I am sure you won't have to be around her too much.

As tough as it is... Yes. My dad has had a gf for like 5 years and I'm still not used to it. Same with my mom an her boyfriend.

While I understand why you don't want to invite her, she does live with you father therefore should be invited

I agree with the ladies. She should be invited.

It sucks, but I'd invite her.

You should invite her UNLESS having her there would make your mother really uncomfortable.

I agree with Barbara. My Dad and his wife have been together since I was a kid, and she was not invited to any of my sisters' weddings, and she is definitely not invited to mine.

@lirana thank goodness I'm not the only one! My mom got remarried 16 years ago, but her husband won't be invited to my wedding. I know he makes my dad uncomfortable, so there is no question he just shouldn't come.

I know that the polite reasonable person says yes she should be invited.

But my step-mother sure as hell isn't invited to my wedding and neither are her children. We weren't invited (my dad and I) to Christmas when she did it with her children so I don't feel they need to be invited to this. And plus I don't like her.

If you have a strong feeling against not inviting it wiil be uncomfortable for you or your mom... then I would sit down and talk to your dad and tell him that your respect him for dating someone but on this day you feel as though it would be better if he just attended solo.

They have been together a year so yes I would invite her.

I hope that your relationship with your Dad is a good and close one. Frankly, I'd be honest with him (using careful and mature wording such as "Dad, would it be alright if I did not invite "Mary." Mom is not bringing a date and I don't want her to feel awkward." If he seems very unhappy, then you have to bite the bullet and invite her. A happy father makes a happy daughter. They don't have to sit anywhere near your mom, and do pay a lot of attention to your mom, and even include her by both you and your beau giving your mother's yellow roses as a tribute of your love to them (your minister can say the right words).

To be honest, I don't think I would invite her. You don't know her well and if I were your mother I'd feel extremely uncomfortable. I would imagine it would be uncomfortable for her as well especially since most of the guest list is family. If you don't want her there I suggest explaining it to your dad (nicely of course) and hope that he understands. If not, I guess you'll just have to extend the invite and hope she declines.