He's getting married June 7th, 2019, in the middle of Europe, min 24hrs of travelling away. Inviting ~60 people. When invitations went out 3 months ago (over a 1.5 year out!) he said I could invite my best-friend but not my boyfriend. They haven't been able to meet yet because of busy schedules and both travel for work/training out of town. I know they would hit if off if they met, but the issue for me is that he's not honoring/respecting my relationship as if I'm wanting to bring some random. This is the person I know I'm going to spend forever with and I've never said that about anyone previously (I'm 32!). Even though we've only been dating 6 months we've been inseparable since. Moving in together next month, and have literally discussed our entire lives together including kids/marriage. So it really blows that my own brother is suddenly throwing out capacity rules when he was going to let me bring my best friend, who he's only met twice.
Everyone else there that I know, will have a +1, and the ones that won't all know/party together with my brother but I have only met them on occasion.
I love him and totally support their wedding but Is it unreasonable of me to be offended and not want to go because he won't let me bring my SO? By the time their wedding rolls around we will be have been together nearly 2 years lol. So ya I really don't want to take time off work and spend ++ $ getting/staying there without him. My brother is pressing for RSVPs to be responded to by the end of this month, yes over a year before the wedding date! I respect that it's his wedding and he can essentially do what he wants, but as his sister/guest I would be uncomfortable/unhappy going without my man who at that point should be considered family anyway. How do I respond without upsetting him? We've already had a heated convo 3 months ago about this. I'm honestly fine with not going, but I don't think he will be too happy about that, we have a tiny family as it is. Thanks for reading and any insight you can bring!
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