Tracey & Dr. Julian
Devoted August 2019

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Tracey & Dr. Julian, on August 24, 2019 at 7:03 AM Posted in Planning 4 27
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I got married August 11,2019. As I reflect back on my planning journey I want to be able to help future brides. Below are items that are NOT must haves for a wedding

Guest transportation- Although it may be nice to provide transportation for guest it’s not necessary. Guest will find transportation and many prefer to commute on their own so they can leave when they want.

Limo or speciality cars- If your not incorporating a limo in your entrance or bridal party entrance scrap it. My wedding the limos picked up my bridal party and I and brought us the venue. Same for my husband and his bridal party. The bridal party reported what a waste of money it was and they can drive their own vehicles to the venue because they need to drive home anyways.

Menu cards- at the end of the night individual menus get thrown. To save money you can display a nice menu one on each table or get orders in advance on rsvp card.

Ceremony Programs- individual programs get thrown out. Try utilizing a board or discard regard altogether.

Seating cards/seating chart- open seating may sound weird for a black tie, very formal wedding but if you utilize reserved cards on the bridal party and family table. You will be reserving the seats for special guest and allowing others to sit wherever they want and you save the money and headache of where to sit people.

rehearsal dinner- Are a added cost. See if the venue will allow you to have a rehearsal there for a hour or so instead of paying for a formal or a dinner for the whole bridal party.

Favors for guest- most favors end up being dust collectors and people don’t use them.

Paper Wedding invitations- With the advancement in technology sending virtual invitations have become more popular. There are also fancy ways and video invitations. Guest can also rsvp online as well to avoid paper overload.

Flowers- If your on a tight budget you can use different items to put in a table such as candelabras. Esty and amazon.

At a wedding for me the MUST haves are great entertainment and food for an unforgettable event.

The below is my opinion and from my own wedding experience. I felt it would be beneficial to share.

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Latest activity by Tracey & Dr. Julian, on August 25, 2019 at 5:52 AM
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    Super September 2019
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    Congratulations on your marriage! I love all these tips!
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  • Kelsy
    Dedicated October 2019
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    This is very informational thank you and congratulations!
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  • KiwiDerbyBride
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    I agree with all of it except the seating chart! I didn't want to have to have 15-20% extra seating, because people won't divide neatly into table-sized groups and there will always be empty spaces. I did a seating chart rather than escort cards - printed it on A3 paper at work and glued it to a piece of card in our wedding colours and it looked completely fine. I think it cost me $2 and half an hour's work figuring out table assignments (we assigned tables but not seats).

    I do also think that if you have a rehearsal, you need a rehearsal dinner to thank your bridal party for being there. But beer and pizza is fine, it doesn't need to be fancy. However, presuming your bridal party are all adults who can walk in a straight line, a rehearsal isn't always necessary either!

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  • Samantha
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    I agree on both counts, while I recognize that we’re all adults and can find some place to sit I think seating charts make a wedding more organized and prevent families or social groups from being separated. I think they’re especially important if you’re inviting people who only know one or two other people at the wedding.
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  • Christina
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    I agree with all but the seating chart because some family just can’t sit with each other. Drama drama lol
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
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    I agree about the favors especially - edible ones or it's just a waste

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  • Lulu
    Savvy March 2022
    Lulu ·
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    Very helpful!!! Thank you! Comforting to know most of the things you mentioned as waste of money I agree one. Hope your day was unforgettable: )
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  • Renee
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    The first 4 things were never an option. We knew that stuff was a waste and we can't afford a limo anyways
    We're having the rehearsal at the venue and then going out to dinner at a buffet after. The venue offers food but it starts at $32pp. Where we're going, it's easily half of that. The rehearsal is important bc it's practice for the next day to make sure everything goes smoothly. When my sister got married, the pastor covered a few things we wouldn't have thought about
    Definitely having a seating chart to make sure there's enough tables. I've seen ppl sit at tables in groups but leave a single space here and there so then other couples can't sit together without moving everyone around. Not to mention it helps to avoid drama with people who can't get along.
    I agree with the flowers but we're spending less than $500 for table decorations and all the flowers for the bridal party
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  • Melissa
    Dedicated October 2019
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    This was a great read, thank you!!
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  • Monique
    Master December 2019
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    I agree with all but the seating chart and program. I think These are are know your crowd thing. As a guest I would hate to be sitting and waiting wondering what was going to happen. (I think a reception program is a good choice.) The attendees of my wedding have issues family wise. We will be doing a seating table chart.
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  • Alyssa
    Devoted October 2019
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    Thanks for the tips. We are not having the majority of this list so it’s nice to know that I’m not the only one who agrees they are a waste!
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    My sentiments exactly!
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  • C
    Dedicated September 2020
    Christina ·
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    Thank you for all the tips. Ive decided not to have transportation and limo. Im still undecided whether to have assigned seating or not
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Yes ! I agree with the menu card thing that's what I did. Food was my priority too.
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
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    Yep this was exactly what I was going to say! I agree with everything except i think a seating chart is really helpful for your guests. And if you have a rehearsal you do need a rehearsal dinner
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  • Devoted August 2021
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    Thanks for sharing!
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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated July 2020
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    Congratulations!! Thank you for sharing!! A lot of these things we are not having so it reassured me that it will be ok! We thought about combining the events of the day on the invitations themselves or just have it posted to see!!
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  • AQuixoticBride
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    I still think that a wedding is one of those things you should send out a paper invitation for. Doesn't have to be overly expensive and guests still can RSVP online.

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  • Eva L.
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    Thank you so much for sharing, it helped.
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    Savvy December 2020
    Lilah ·
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    Congratulations and helpful tips!

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