Mr/Mrs on Invite Addressing

I think I would stick to more traditional even if it's a more casual wedding, but either way, nobody really looks too closely at the wording anyway.

Mine isn't formal and I still did Mr. and Mrs. John Smith. I don't think it's wrong to do both first names though.

We did ours as John and Mary Smith. Our wedding is casual and intimate, so we didn't see the need for being formal on the invites.

Not only did I use Mr. and Mrs., but used proper names (i.e. Rebecca for Becky, Elizabeth for Betsey, etc). For married couples, I only used the first name of the husband. For unmarried couples, I listed the person that I actually know first. (I read that somewhere, so that's what I did.)

You should still do formal titles for a wedding invitation. Also, I would list the full first name of both people. Instead of Mr. and Mrs. John Smith, I would put "Mr. Jonathan Smith and Mrs. Abigail Smith." Just make sure you actually know their full name (not every John is a Jonathan; not every Abby is an Abigail).

Which name comes first depends on your own preference, but most do man's day and woman's name. However, if one has a title, then you put that person first (Mr. Jonathan Smith and Mrs. Abigail Smith, but Dr. Abigail Smith and Mr. Jonathan Smith).

On a sidenote, I never realized how sexist addressing wedding invitations is.

I didn't write Mr or Mrs. I wrote John and Mary Smith. And in some cases I wrote Mary and John Smith. I broke all the rules with my envelopes, LOL.

I didn't write mr or Mrs. I went very laid back. If someone went by Matt it got addressed as Matt and not Matthew

I did it based on the person i was addressing. For more formal people i did Mr. And Mrs. Husband Last Name. For others, usually younger like me, i put both of their first names.

I will do mine based off the person I am addressing.

I did "Mr John and Mrs Mary Smith". I can't STAND getting things in the mail addressed to Mrs FHfirst FHlast, so I refused to send them that way.

What are formal people?

I like both names. You don't have to write titles. It's up to you. But I don't like the Mr and Mrs John Smith. My name is not Mrs John. My name is Mrs Smith or my name is Mrs Mary Smith

I have a similar question for the actual invite. As the MOB and primary contributor to the financial part of the wedding I want my name on the invitation. Not Mr and Mrs John Smith, IV cordially invite.... should it be Mr John Smith, IV and Mrs Mary Smith?

I also did what BicycleBuiltForTwo did: "Mr. John and Mrs. Mary Smith". Leaving out the woman's name seems sexist to me.