Moved The Wedding

I did that. We were originally planning for October 2019, but both my sisters work in hospitals and were unable to take off because there's rules if you are a resident? No idea, not my industry. So we pushed the date to February 2020.

I would. I chose 12.31.2020 strictly because my grandmother was going to be in town anyways for my uncle's 50th birthday. She is my last living grandparent, and i wanted to make it easy for her to be here. If anything were to happen where she couldnt make it that date, then I won't hesitate to move it.

View Quoted Comment My dad was recently diagnosed with stage 3 COPD and congestive heart failure and I'm worried he won't make it to the wedding. Our plan was 2021 so I can be 21 but I'm thinking we are gonna have to push it to 2020

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I don't think you should hesitate. He sounds incredibly important to you, so you should do it!

View Quoted Comment My fiance's family is skeptical about moving up the wedding though.

View Quoted Comment I just don't think he will tell me. He doesn't want me to rush everything cause of him.

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Do what you think is right. I really wanted both my sisters at my wedding, and my FH's family was able to do any date. So, I asked one of them to tell me which day would work for her, and she requested it off more than 6 months in advance. My other sister followed right after requesting it because I told them that date was locked once they gave me the green light. I am excited to have them both there, and would really really regret not having them.

What do you want to do?

View Quoted Comment I would love to have my dad there. And it's hard with his sister not answering me on if she'll be a bridesmaid or not. Plus shes in Canada

My dad has multiple myeloma and we’ve talked about changing the date to make sure he’s around but we haven’t due to finances. If we had to, spur of the moment court house and toast, we would do that for him. But whatever you all think is best! If you want him to experience the whole thing, move it up.

View Quoted Comment We wanted to love it to 2020 instead of 2021 and that still gives us time. I'm just worried he won't tell me and I won't have a dad at my wedding

View Quoted Comment Dads can be hard to communicate with when it comes to them being sick. They like to pretend everything is fine still. If you think he really won’t make it that long, get to planning! Your FH should be supportive of that.

We were booked for July 2020 for about a year and last July (2019) we changed our date to May 2020 since my fiance is in medical school and was basically told that if he gets married in July he has to be back at work on Monday. A honeymoon right after our wedding is a non negotiable so we changed our date and luckily invited ZERO fees and every vendor was available for the new date

We're planning a wedding for Oct 2020. Around May of this year there were plans for his mom to move out of state to live with his brother as she's in a wheelchair and needs 24 hr care. The thought was that once she moved she wouldn't be able to travel back for the wedding. He has already lost his dad and we couldn't imagine getting married without his mom there too. We ended up planning a small wedding with just our immediate families in June. We're still planning the larger one for next Oct. (the kick is she still hasn't moved lol).

Its you and your fiancee's decision whether or not you change the date. No one else's. You can just do a small legal ceremony now so your dad will be there and still go ahead with a bigger one in 2021. Follow your heart, you don't want to regret anything because of other people.

View Quoted Comment I appreciate the idea but my fiance doesn't believe in that idea I tried to approach the same thing. He feels like just one big one.

We moved up our wedding due to deployment training. I mean...the groom kind of needs to be there haha

We did. We were planning on getting married in October of 2020 but moved it up to February 2020 b/c my FH's uncle has a crazy work schedule. He works months on end without a day off and has the last week of February off. And that's his last week off until Thanksgiving 2020 (like I said, crazy work schedule). His uncle is his best friend and if he wasn't able to make it, my FH would be crushed so we moved our date up to ensure he could attend.

View Quoted Comment Is sounds like we are moving out date up to October 2020 instead of October 2021. I am so stressed now though because we have nothing set up. And my Maid of Honor literally just told me she can't be my maid of honor so I'm freaking out.

View Quoted Comment Just a little bit haha. Was it harder to plan when you moved the wedding.

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I completely understand. We got engaged in April and were planning on October 2020 for the wedding. When we found out about his uncle's schedule toward the beginning of June and changed our date to February of 2020 I started freaking out too. Since then I have lost 2 bridesmaids. One could not commit b/c she had family issues going on - which I understand, and the other said she couldn't afford her dress - which I also totally understand and I offered to pay for her dress but she wouldn't let me.

Don't freak out. Take a step back a couple of day and put your mind and focus on something else. Although it is inconvenient that you lost your MOH, it doesn't have to stress you out. You still have time to get another one, if you want one.

View Quoted Comment I plan on asking my cousin to be my MOH but idk what she'll say. I'm just worried I'll fall behind and my wedding won't be the way I want it to.