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Molly
Just Said Yes May 2020

Move ahead despite Covid? August Bride

Molly, on June 26, 2020 at 6:59 AM Posted in Community Conversations 1 10
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Hi everyone,


Getting married in August in MA. We already postponed once. Our venue has been awful and won’t let us postpone, but I don’t feel comfortable with having an indoor 140 guest wedding because of covid. Because our venue has been just painful to work with, i started looking elsewhere. I found a beautiful tent option that is available our date at a great price. I feel being outdoors is safer and the venue, which has a restaurant, is very well versed in serving people safely. MA is also the state with the lowest transmission rate and I think the government is opening responsibly. Kids are going back to school in the fall, indoor dining is allowed, and colleges will be holding classes the week after my wedding.
My fiancé and I are thinking of moving ahead with this new venue. We want to move past our wedding. Guests who are not comfortable can rsvp no and we may zoom if there’s a lot of them. Mainly I’m just wondering If I’m being naive and people will be mad we’re doing it this way. After all we’ve been through with this, I don’t want any negativity on the actual day.

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Latest activity by Gina, on June 30, 2020 at 3:46 PM
  • Onya
    Expert October 2020
    Onya ·
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    I️ don't think there will be negativity towards going to your wedding, I️ think the negativity will just come from the circumstances surrounding it. Everyone will be excited about your big day and actually seeing you get married. Having a Zoom option sounds very inclusive of those who can’t go for health reasons/ those who can’t make the risk to come. Sorry your original venue isn’t being very helpful. But hurray for finding a rent option that gives your guests freedom of space. You are doing all you can to make your day work. 💕
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  • E
    Devoted August 2020
    Elle ·
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    I'm in southeastern PA, and I'm moving forward with my August wedding (I specify "southeastern" because we have way more cases than western or central PA.... or really any part of the state). We are keeping our indoor 130 guest wedding. More than likely, we will not even hit 130 guests; I'm guessing more around 80, maybe even 100, since I'm already getting rsvp's back, and our guest count is up to 50 so far.

    Don't worry about other people being mad. Those who want to be there will be there. There will not be any negativity from people who WANT to be there.

    I'm having the same issue with my bridal shower (which was already postponed once). I absolutely do not want a Zoom shower. We're moving forward with a normal, indoor, restaurant shower (It's supposed to be a surprise, but I know way more than I should, hehe). My sister, who's my Matron of Honor, is getting a lot of backlash from my friends that's we're not having a Zoom shower. My best friend (who's a bridesmaid) told me she's going to be setting up for my shower but not staying. My other friend (bridesmaid) agrees. So I'm gonna be down 2 bridesmaids for my shower, one of them being my best friend. I told her that I can't force her to stay if she's uncomfortable. So that's that - it is their choice.

    I know we will have negative opinions from people who do not think we should move forward, but since they won't be there, why should they even ruin our day like that lol.

    Have fun and just enjoy your day!!!

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  • Emily
    Expert September 2020
    Emily ·
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    I'd honestly feel thankful you've thought of your guests so much. It sounds like you're doing way more proactive steps than others I've read - you're not treating this as "business as usual", which I think guests would appreciate.
    We probably won't be back to true normal for quite a while, so you've really adapted. The people who are there won't be negative - I hope you're able to enjoy your day!
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  • Chelsea G
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    Chelsea G ·
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    I don't think they'd be mad. I feel during this time it's understanding. I feel you with just getting past your wedding.. after this next time if it does not work I am just going to have a microwedding or something. It's just taking too much out of me and ruining our time line.

    I would just put in a little note card that they shouldn't feel obligated to attend if they feel uncomfortable and will live stream the event for those who can not attend. I keep hearing different things about MA and holding weddings so I have no clue what's going on.

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  • Shakia
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    So many people are understanding during these times. I’m sorry that your venue is being difficult Smiley sad But if the tent option is also great and you’re ok with it, I’d say go for it. Moving it to an outdoor venue, to me, is being considerate of your guests. You will have people who will decline because of COVID but the ones who want to be there will still show. Enjoy your day & good luck!
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  • Molly
    Just Said Yes May 2020
    Molly ·
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    Thanks everyone! I really appreciate all the positivity 🤗
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  • VIP August 2020
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    I think you're making a really good choice. And if most of your guests are local, they'll definitely understand and appreciate any changes you have to make.


    The guidelines around weddings in Massachusetts are really unclear, and it's also not clear which stage we'll be in in August even if things go well. This doesn't really help with your actual wedding, but if the guidelines in place at the time of your wedding mean that your original venue would not have been able to host the wedding you planned, based on your contract, they're not legally allowed to charge you for it. If they try to, you can report them to the Attorney General's office. People did that when gyms were still charging them after the shutdown started and they ended up having to refund everyone.
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    Melle ·
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    If people don’t want to come then they won’t. So if you want to continue with it that’s fine and it’s not gonna be on you cause they have the choice to come or not
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  • Aimee
    Savvy August 2020
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    My wedding is 8/9 already postponed once from
    May. We plan on having it. We’re in Virginia which goes to phase 3 next week. Virginia has opened slower than some states which has been good. I just sent the invites today to 125 people with a note addressing Covid. I think we expect 90-100 people. Ours is indoors and I have thought about moving it outdoors but I don’t know if I can do a major change like that this close to the date! However the indoor room is very big compared to the amount of people we have, so there will be room to social distance.
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  • Gina
    WeddingWire Administrator April 2021
    Gina ·
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    Hi Molly,

    I'm so sorry you are going through this! I have found a discussion that I think will be helpful. Check it out!

    August Brides and Covid

    Let us know what you decide.

    Sending so much love your way!

    Smiley heart

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