Mother's Husband Not Invited - Need Advice

I am googling the crap out of this topic. I am in the same boat!

My Mom is married to a man, who is extremely close to my age, immature, a drunk, and loves to talk about guns, how he's a bad ass, and he lies SO much!!!!

I am having a destination wedding, about 16 people tops. Since it's such an intimate wedding, and we're all staying on the same resort, I have no want to see this guy on OUR DAY. My fiance' can't stomach the guy either.

My Mom, is also in complete denial, as to why I can't stand this guy. She's always "so suprised" that I don't like him, or care for his company at all.

I want my Mom to be at my wedding, but I'm trying to figure out, how to tell my Mother who is in denial as to why, I can't even fathom her Husband being there.

@Lydia. Sorry to hear about your situation as well. It is never easy. Since yours is a destination wedding...would you be okay with him being there but telling your mom he is not welcome to any part of your wedding? If you are anything like me the answer is absolutely NOT.

This is a tough one since your mom knows your feelings about him. I'd still tell her he's not invited to the destination...or maybe have him and your mom book a different resort so you don't see his annoying drunkeness the whole time you guys are there. That way your mom is still apart of your day and since it is her husband she still gets to have them there. But no way in HELL would I let them stay at the same resort! You will see that guy freaking everywhere!

I am in a similar situation, my step-father kicked me out of the house when I was 18 and while my relationship with my mother has mended over the years I have not seen or spoken to him since that day and have no intention to invite him. I think I will simply go about it by not putting his name on the invitation, address it only to Mrs. My mother, 1 of 1. My mother knows about my relationship with him and if she chooses to bring him un-invited to my wedding he will simply be asked to leave. Sometimes that is all it takes.

Girl my mother in law and I do NOT get along, she is a miserable person and jealous of our relationship when I did everything in my power to show her love and respect and then I finally snapped one day. My husband and I had a beautiful wedding she wasn’t invited to and didn’t find out till later when the photos were shared on social media and my husbands family that aren’t haters told her. It’s your wedding and your day you choose who you want there period. You can not care what others think it’s the only true way to find happiness, she clearly found hers lol