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Mother walking Groom down aisle

milinovemberbride, on March 23, 2017 at 6:16 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 27
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Is the MOG walking the groom down the aisle a thing?

FMIL said the other day "when I walk Michael down the aisle... blah blah blah." And it kind of struck me as weird. Personally, I don't care what she does as long as she leaves me alone but I hate how she just assumes that she's going to walk him down. Also I didn't know that a mother is supposed to walk her son down? I always thought he just walks by himself. Just looking for some knowledge on the etiquette of this.

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Latest activity by Blanca, on January 26, 2019 at 1:34 PM
  • vghjfcxgxfgdh
    VIP June 2017
    vghjfcxgxfgdh ·
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    I have seen it at a couple weddings! I don't think its a thing that you have to do, but its not looked at as strange if she does it

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  • GymRat
    Master May 2017
    GymRat ·
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    This is a personal preference. When searching for a videographer, I saw some grooms being escorted down the aisle by one or both parents, and I thought it was a nice touch.

    I simply asked FH if he wanted to do that and he said no. We'll just have his parents walk down the aisle before the wedding party.

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  • Miranda
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    Miranda ·
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    Maybe just ask your fiancé what he wants to do. I have personally never seen it in a wedding. I think my FH will walk by himself

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  • LoveBird30
    Super April 2017
    LoveBird30 ·
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    Our officiant recommended it and I had never even thought about it before! So, FH asked her and she was very touched. Must be more common than I realized!

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  • AwkwardToBe
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    AwkwardToBe ·
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    FH wanted to walk with both of his parents and step dad down the aisle. But once we started going through the logistics, it seems very hard to position 4 people in a way that some don't feel left out or in the way. So we're probably going to have him walk with just his mom. Did your FH want to walk his mom down the aisle? I think the decision should be up to him.

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  • milinovemberbride
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    milinovemberbride ·
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    @AwkwardToBe that's the thing, she just kind of assumed that's how it would be. It would be sweet if HE proposed the idea to HER but instead she just plans it her way from the beginning. Not that I care. I just HATE when people assume things. Big pet peeve for me.

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  • milinovemberbride
    VIP November 2017
    milinovemberbride ·
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    @LoveBird30 at this point, my FMIL wouldn't even be touched if he asked her. She would be like "I know...." LOL

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  • milinovemberbride
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    milinovemberbride ·
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    Thanks for the advice, everyone! I'm gonna have FH decide what he wants and he can ask her so I can kinda feel like I'm in charge of my own wedding. Smiley winking LOL

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  • ShakespeareBride
    Super January 2018
    ShakespeareBride ·
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    Yeah FMIL and FFIL will be walking down together, FH by himself. It's a choice he made.

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    Beginner January 2018
    Ashley ·
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    At my friend's wedding, both parents walked the groom down the aisle and it was beautiful!

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  • DoggoMom
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    DoggoMom ·
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    My husband walked his mom down and then walked my mom down before standing at the alter.

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    I have a lot of moms walking with grooms.

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  • Kathleen Smith
    Kathleen Smith ·
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    I came right to posting. At almost every wedding I photograph, the Groom escorts his Mom down the aisle (with Dad a step or two behind) to their seat. Once the parent(s) takes their seat, the Groom steps to the end of the aisle and the BP procession begins.

    Perhaps this is what your FMIL was thinking about?

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  • Midwest May
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    Midwest May ·
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    Kathleen.......that's what I was thinking that she's referring to him walking HER down the aisle to her seat and just got the words turned around.

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  • TheWrightGirl
    Super November 2017
    TheWrightGirl ·
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    If she wants to walk her son down the aisle and fh doesn't have a problem with it, just let it go. I think it's really wonderful to see a mom walk her son down the aisle.

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  • LoveBird30
    Super April 2017
    LoveBird30 ·
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    LOL I see what you mean, OP! And I hear ya, I would feel the same as you if I was in your shoes ;-)

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  • lyla
    Master July 2017
    lyla ·
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    I think it's up to FH. Honestly my instinctive reaction was "eek not sexy." Seems a little infantilizing to me and I think FH would find it a little emasculating tbh. Then again, he's not close at all with his mom. If your FH thinks it's a sweet gesture and doesn't feel weird about it, I think it's all good.

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  • Erika.
    Devoted May 2018
    Erika. ·
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    I think it's just a personal preference thing. But I definitely wouldn't say it's weird. I also don't think she should assume, especially if your FH hasn't expressed what he'd like to do.

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  • Mrs. Coakley
    Master June 2017
    Mrs. Coakley ·
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    Personally, I've never seen it and I think it's a little strange. Although it is your FH's decision what he wants to do.

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  • milinovemberbride
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    milinovemberbride ·
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    Just an FYI, I don't have anything against a groom walking his mother down the aisle!! I just wanted to know if there was any standard etiquette for this because I've never seen it before. But thank you, everybody! Smiley smile

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