Mother-son and father-daughter songs... HELP!

When my dad and I each had a couple beers in us a couple weeks ago, I ased him what song we should dance to. He laughed and said the Chicken Dance. What's funny is that if that is what he would be more comfortable doing, I'd do it, but I almost think he would be more uncomfortable with that than a slow dance.

My daughter had a very difficult time choosing her song for the same reasons she mentioned. Her father suggested "Somewhere Over the Rainbow". It worked well for them. Why not ask your father what he would like to dance to?

As far as mother/son songs, I have no ideas. I love the Beatles song.

I was just going to say make it something fun! do something out of the blue non-traditional that you both can sit back and laugh at!

Do you know who his favorite artist it? My father's was frank sinatra, so that's what he danced to with my sisters. He passed away a few years ago, so I am dancing with my 14yr old son. I think we would need lessons to dance to Frank, so we are still thinking.

I personally think you shouldn't just pick a song out of the air for your mother/son and father/daughter dances. If you are going to pick specific songs, you should pick ones that you like or can identify with, not because it makes a good song to dance to. Let FH and his mom decide his. There is no requirement that you do these dances, or what song it should be. So don't do it if you think it will be an awkward or uncomfortable experience.

I lost my dad in July of this year and will be having a dollar dance with proceeds going to charity in place of a father-daughter dance. I know my opinion is more than slightly biased because of that, but I think you shouldn't pass up the chance to have a father-daughter dance. Weddings are about celebrating with family and friends. Put aside your differences for one day. In the long run, you will probably be glad you did.

Anyone looking for ideas might like to take a look at:

http://www.squidoo.com/best-wedding-father-daughter-dance-songs

My dad is a lot like yours very anti-dancing but we danced to Cinderella by Steven Curtis Chapman and I don't think there was one person that was not crying. We actually had a rocky relationship as well and I swear that was really the first time I ever saw my dad get emotional to the point that he cried. I would let your FH and his mom pick theirs though it is more meaningful that way.

A link to the video of cinderella:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nrWMBC6yoME

I never had any intentions of picking the song for the mother-son dance. I seek advice here for both of us, since my FH isn't much of a forum person. He has had trouble deciding on a song, so I thought I would get some opinions for him and see if it helped with the decision making process.

I also never had any intentions of picking something "out of the blue". I have heard so many songs in my life that it is hard to think of everything. There may be a song that I know but can't think of that may fit perfectly and I just need someone to remind me of it. You know what I mean?

We're thinking of doing the father-daughter and mother-son dances simultaneously to In My Life by The Beatles. Any thoughts on this idea?

I am also considering My Wish by Rascal Flatts, Drops of Jupiter by Train, and Blackbird by The Beatles... in case we decide against doing both at the same time to In My Life.

Another thing... Shannon, you said "put aside your differences for one day" and I had every intention of doing just that. A lot of the time, my dad and I do get long, and I always love him. We just don't have that "my dad is my best friend" kind of father-daughter bond. Sometimes I worry that my dad doesn't love me. Sometimes it even seems like he cares more about my daughter than me. At the end of the day, I know those worries are just worries and have no truth to them, but I only have those worries because my relationship with my father is so different than so many father-daughter relationships I have witnessed. We'll find a song before or during the reception, preferably before, and it will be a moment with my dad that I will always cherish. In the meantime... I'm stressing myself out over it because I am running low on time. lol

As a wedding dj, I see how difficult these decisions can be on a frequent basis, my suggestion, get your dj involved! I sit down with mothers and fathers all the time and discuss these things, your dj should too, if they are super uncomfortable we try and pick songs that have the message right in the chorus, that way if they are nervous, after just a minute or two I can fade the song out so its not such a long length of awkwardness, hopes this helps,

John

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Hi Sarah,

Most (more like 99%) of brides that we work with in your situation will do either of the following:

1. Let the DJ know in advance that this song should be faded away somewhere in the middle, if you know the song by heart and wish to be exact, you can let the DJ know which portion he/she should begin fading it away. The MC will then take over and make it sound natural.

OR if you want to "feel out" the situation as you may feel different on your Wedding day

2. Set up a "signal" with the DJ which will let him/her know that you no longer wish to continue dancing, and to begin fading the song out.

We're asked a similar question at least once per month, which motivated us to put together a huge list of father/daughter songs with descriptions (over 600), and currently adding more videos to help you out: http://sewardparktech.com/wedding-father-daughter-songs/ Hope this helps