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Mother of the Groom on wedding day

Goingthomas2020, on September 5, 2019 at 12:33 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 17
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Where does the MIL usually hang before the ceremony? With the bridal party, with her son and helps him get ready, or just does her own thing. I like her enough but think I'd want only my Mom with my. Would it be correct to say "I think it's tradition that the MIL stays with the groom?" Although would be a little trickier that her daughter (grooms sister) is one of my bridesmaids.

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Latest activity by Laura, on September 5, 2019 at 7:34 PM
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    Expert January 2020
    Abby ·
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    I’m having a DW my FMIL is going to be getting ready with a few other lady’s at her rental house and I’ll be getting ready at my step moms rental/hotel with my MOH and a few others!
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    Master January 2015
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    I'm sure my FMIL will be back and forth from hanging with the bridal party and going to see FH. I'm also having FH's sister as a bridesmaid.

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  • Lauren
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    Lauren ·
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    My mom was always around the bride and bridesmaids for both of my brothers' weddings (I was a bridesmaid both times as well). She did go help my brothers if they needed help. I've never been in a wedding that the MOG wasn't with the bride and bridesmaids, but every wedding I've been in the bride has been pretty close to the MOG.

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    Goingthomas2020 ·
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    Good to know! I have 4 sisters and I don't remember the mother's being with us but I couldn't remember as it has been awhile. I want to be courteous of his side of the family as well. However we've been engaged less than 2 months and there's already been unwanted opinions.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    There's really no tradition when it comes to this. It's whatever you and her decide on. I wouldn't blatantly tell her that she's not getting ready with you unless she asks. Most weddings that I've been in, she's gotten ready with the bride if they're close, or at home.

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  • Lauren
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    Lauren ·
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    You can ask for her help to greet the guests as they arrive since obviously you won't be doing that.

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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2020
    Samantha ·
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    I agree that you shouldn’t mention it unless she asks. Then, your FH can invite her to be with him while he gets ready and you can sidestep the issue.
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    Goingthomas2020 ·
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    Good tips. Thanks ladies!
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  • Formerbride
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    Formerbride ·
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    We were all staying at the hotel next to the venue except for my FHs family. My MIL got ready at her house as far as I know.
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    Master November 2019
    Mrs. S ·
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    I invited my mother in law to get ready with us and she was thrilled. I think it’s important for the women to build a strong relationship, plus she’s going to be my kids grandmother and I want to know her better.
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  • Mary
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    Mary ·
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    My MIL was with us in the bridal suite for the entire morning on our wedding day. We (as a couple) covered hair and make-up services for both our moms. It was the first time either of them had been professionally pampered. ☺️
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    Goingthomas2020 ·
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    I'm all for strong relationships and have tried very hard. I'm always the one initiating visits But my wedding day also isn't a day I'm gonna want criticism which I always end up getting.
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  • Sara
    Super October 2019
    Sara ·
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    My FH's sister is a bridesmaid, so I expect my FMIL to hang with the rest of the girls while getting ready, and FFIL to be with the guys.

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    Goingthomas2020 ·
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    That's the other thing I forgot to mentuon. My fiancée father (divorced from mother for nearly 20 years) just passed so I think having his mom with him would be good.
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  • Heather
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    Heather ·
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    I’m inviting my FMIL to get ready with us. We are pretty close and she doesn’t have any daughters so I feel like this maybe be one of the only chances she gets to experience getting ready with the bride.
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  • Lizzy
    Super October 2019
    Lizzy ·
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    My future SIL is a BM and my MIL is getting her hair and make up done with us, so I'm guessy she will be with us at least most of the day
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  • Laura
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    Laura ·
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    My FMIL will be getting ready with me, my mom and my bridesmaids. My FSIL is also one of my bridesmaids. I'm sure once my FMIL is ready, she'll also go see FH.

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