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Just Said Yes August 2017

Mother of the Bride Not Coming to Wedding

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Kayleigh, on March 22, 2017 at 2:10 PM

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I was raised Catholic my whole life. Fiance is Non Denominational Christian. When I went to college 5 years ago I started feeling drifted from the Catholic church and only went w/ family. When I started dating my fiancé I started attending church with him and really enjoyed it and my new found faith. My mom wanted me to get married in the Catholic church; it was her non-negotiable. We were prepared to do that for her but not have communion at the ceremony. She said that if there is no communion then we need to take it out of the Catholic church. After a lot of consideration thats what we decided to do we want to start our marriage on the right foot with our faith. Now, she is saying she is not coming/participating in wedding activities. She keeps trying to get me alone and convince me that I am in a cult and insists that she is not and will not change her mind and that I betrayed her. She's said some extremely hurtful things but I do not know what to do. She's my mom I want her there.

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Devoted November 2017
Jennifer · on March 22, 2017 at 9:32 PM
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I'm actually in a similar situation with my own mother right now. I was raised Catholic and my FH is Lutheran. We are getting married at the venue by his pastor and it hasn't been easy. Every chance she gets she brings up the Catholic thing. She has ruined a lot of important events of wedding planning because of her attitude. I talked with my fmil and the pastor and decided to write my mom a letter about how I feel bc I know I can't explain everything I want to in person. In the end it's your wedding and you have to decide what is best for the two of you. Best of luck to you!
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Amanda · on March 22, 2017 at 9:36 PM
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We did not have communion at our wedding, and we are both Catholic. Same thing with my parents. Not sure where your mom is coming from??? It's called a Catholic ceremony outside of mass. It's perfectly legitimate and valid within the Church. Let her know that! It's even in the book they give you before marriage that includes the different readings to choose from (called Together for Life).
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