Mother of groom

I don’t care. I will most likely not see it till
the wedding. I got enough to worry about with work and wedding stuff the. What she wears.

Mine just keep asking what color she should buy. I keep telling her as long as it's nice. But I wouldnt worry about it. Ask what color it is or if it its white. If not, let it be. You have way too much to worry about.

I didnt see my MILs dress before the wedding. I dont know why youd need to...

I didn’t see either of our mothers dresses before the wedding day. I had enough to worry about and didn’t need to micromanage adults.

Mine bought hers 2 days before the wedding. She showed me pics of the 3 she tried on, and I didn't know which she was wearing day of. It really wont matter what she has on so long as its fits what you're going for (more casual or more formal). She'll be in a handful of pictures, so it's not worth your energy to worry about it.

I would care zero percent. I want her to wear what she’s happy with.

I wouldn’t care. I actually saw my FMIL dress for the wedding, but that was bc she sent it to me (excited that she FINALLY found a dress).
I’m still working on my mom getting a dress. Lol I don’t even care what dress she gets, as long as she has a dress that fits.

My FH’s mom passed away several years ago, but I honestly don’t care what anyone wears except me, my MOHs, FH, and his Best man. I’m sure my mom will ask and I’m happy to go shopping with her and help her pick something, but I have enough on my plate to worry about what FH’s adoptive mother is going to wear. Even if it is white/ivory/etc she’ll be the one that looks tacky and no one will judge you for it, she’s an adult.

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That's what I keep telling the moms lol. Don't care, as long as it's not white.

My MIL would ask whether there is a color or style she should wear, but we left it to her discretion. We didn't give her any guidelines because it's not like she needs to match the bridal party or decor. I didn't see her chosen outfit until the wedding day. 🤷🏻‍♀️

She’s a grown woman and doesn’t need my approval.

Parents could have shown up in burlap dresses and I wouldn't have cared. We told them to dress comfortably. They knew they were going to have pictures taken, they're adults and know how to dress themselves.
My MIL insisted on showing me the options (pant suit or dress) and we both told her to choose whatever she wanted.

I never saw my MILs dress, but I also never asked. Is there something specific you’re concerned about?

I didn’t see my MILs dress until my wedding day. I figured she was an adult who dressed herself her whole life.

I would never have dreamed of asking any adult , FMIL or my Mom. They choose what they want, and with no input and no right of bride to approve or disapprove. She may consider it very disrespectful that you would ask her or any adult guest. That is a major no-no. Brides and groom's have no say in parents or adult guests clothes. Let people know how formal your wedding party will dress. Guests and family dress with same formality or one step down. That is all you do or say about guest or family attire

Kind of weird she won't show you the dress. Mine bought hers by herself and I didn't really care that she chose it herself. but for you... It's sort of weird she won't show you if you asked o.o

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Yep, my thoughts exactly. At my first wedding, in the early 90's, my then MIL was all "What color is your mom wearing?" and I was: "Wear what you want. You are people, not props."

I don’t mind letting my mil pick out her own dress. But mine did invite me to go look at dresses this month so that way I can help. But I’m sure she will pick out something beautiful. I just want her to be comfortable. On the other hand, my mom isn’t telling me what she is going to wear and I trust that she makes her own decision. I dont want to have to manage everyone. It is my wedding but I want everyone to be comfortable and happy that day.

Mine refuses to buy anything unless it's approved. I kind of wish she would just go buy something and not bother me.

Hmm that's weird. Mine is the total opposite, she's been asking me which color to get and shows me all the dresses she's been purchasing/returning haha. Maybe let her know how important it is to you that you see it? Especially if you're concerned about how the photos will look.