Is it okay for me to have both my mother and the mother to my bride to wear the same color? I have chosen silver for the color I want them to wear the day of. It doesn't have to be the same dress, but I do ask for a silver color. I am getting backlash from my soon to be mother in law and she wants to wear gold! Am I unruly to ask for what I am asking for? My soon to be wife does not care, but knows I do and is cool with my vision. So........am I crazy?