Mostly Kid-Free?

Inviting immediate family and extended family kids along with kids of close friends is appropriate. As long as ALL family kids are invited. Wouldn't be right to invite some extended family kids and not others.

No need to extend to EVERY child outside of family. To make this clear and organized, put "Mr. and Mrs. so and so and Family" on the envelopes for families with invited kids. Leave the "and Family" out for other guests. This is exactly what I'm doing.

We're doing immediate family (our cousins are the only ones who have kids) only. Most of them are still opting to come kid-free. My cousin is having a friend come pick up her ring bearer 5 year old right after dinner.

I'm having the same issue. Mostly our issue is where does it stop? My FH and I got in a HUGE fight about it. He wanted all the kids and I wanted very very few. We decided to invite in circles, my cousins and his nieces/nephews were for sure invited. I wanted to cap it at that, buuuut he wanted his cousins cousins. We've ended up with about 30 kids on the guest list, which is more than I wanted, but a lot are from out of town so I'm hoping not all show, or some parents may decide they want a kid free night, and not bring them haha.

There is no way I would have every kid at my wedding. I would greatly prefer that we have no kids other than my son by FH really thinks his niece and nephews should be there. So we settled on immediate family kids. If you have a relationship with some kids and not others I don't see why that would be a problem.

That is honestly what I did. Family(cousins, siblings, cousins kids) and kids I had a close relationship with.

I agree with pp. you definitely invite in circles. I'd be really wary of setting an arbitrary age (e.g. 13 and up) because you could end up dividing families because big brother is 13, but little sis is 11, so she can't come but he can.

Absolutely. We are only having immediate family kids. 3 on my side and 2 on FHs side.

Following, because we are only doing immediate family members children. But how do you list this on invites, or do you?

Family and anyone who travels are allowed to bring kids. I know in the past, I was 13 yrs old, I was invited to a wedding when most kids weren't since the bride babysat me all the time. A lot of family friends who are older than I am, I feel are important to invite, however, while I know them I do not know their kids. So their kids aren't invited.

We are in the same boat! The only kids at our wedding will be our niece and nephew, and a few of our first cousins are younger (15+ yrs old). We are considering hiring babysitters for our OOT guests convenience

We are only inviting oot kids.