Morning After Breakfast

I am so not up on etiquette, but the last wedding I went to the grooms parents hosted the breakfast the next day. My parents are having a brunch the next day, but mainly because it's mother's day.

Honestly I think it's a little weird she would request that, but since they are paying I'd go ahead and add it. Also I don't think it makes your parents look cheap.

I have no idea who is supposed to host the morning after breakfast. I don't think it will make your parents look cheap, and I don't think it would be a big deal to say, "Morning after breakfast hosted by Grooms mom and dad," and most people would probably not notice, except that they were getting free breakfast and extra time with you!

TBH I have never heard that if you do do a morning after breakfast that the brides family pay.

So saying that I would have no issue with putting that FH parents are hosting it.

Maybe it is that if FH parents also think that it is assumed that brides parents pay that they want to make sure that people know it is them - honestly I see no issue with that

but can see why someone might as well

As a guest I wouldn't even notice who was hosting it really. (maybe just to say a quick thanks but that would be it) and even if it wasn't listed who was hosting I would still be thanking people as a guest

The morning after my wedding ill be headed toward the beach at the highest speed allowed, so i wont be having this particular joy but in my honest opinion i dont think it matters who hosts it. The real question is, is this fight big enough to risk having it out with your new inlaws that soon after the wedding? Pick your battles.

If it matters to her mention it. It does not make your parents look cheap. People are not going to put that much thought into it. Guests don't care who pays for what. It's just appreciated that it's free for them (the guests).

I agree with you that its tacky of the in-laws to ask for credit but you could turn it around and look at as support. They want the guests to know that they support this marriage. Its a stretch I know but you will have a long relationship with them. Why not get it started on the right foot. Next time ask a girlfriend for editing advice.

Rehersal dinners, wedding meals and now breakfasts the NEXT day?! Jeez ... I'm sure glad we aren't following "protocol" ...

I don't think it's a big deal to say that it's being hosted by the groom's parents and it doesn't make your parents look cheap at all.

However, on your schedule are you noting for each event who is hosting what? Is it going to stand out too much? If you want to share the wording or schedule I'm sure we could help you word it so it blends.

Trisha S you and me both....there is nothing I mean NOTHING traditional about how I planned my wedding.

Amen Trisha and Glennda. We are paying for the whole wedding ourselves. so nothing traditional here either

Agree with Amy V. I've never heard of either the bride's or the groom's side hosting the day after breakfast. We did do a day-after champagne brunch buffet...but let everyone know ahead of time what the prices were - they paid for themselves.

I don't think it makes your parents look cheap, mostly because I don't think anyone would be expecting them to host a breakfast and therefore wouldn't realize there was anything "unusual" about it.

I do think it's kind of weird that your FMIL asked that, but I'd just go ahead and include it, not worth fighting over and most people probably won't even notice, remember, or care.

I like that idea Alisa.

What do your invites say? Is there anythin about your parents requesting the honor or your presense blah blah blah on them? If so, and fils are not hosting rehersal i can see why theyd want it to be known.

I think it's pretty standard to say hosted by blah and blah because it isn't something traditionally thought of as being part of a wedding. I wouldn't stress about it and I really wouldn't get mad. They offered to pay which was super sweet! Just sit back and relax! At least they appear to want you to be part of their family. Also, it doesn't make your family look cheap? I never would have thought of that until you posted that you were worried about it.

It's like a bridal shower - it says who hosts that and no one seems to care that they are taking credit because hello, they're paying for it and doing all of the stressing

I think you also should take into account the generational differences... we have to remember that when our parent's got married -- for most part there was very strict etiquette and guidelines... for example the bride's family always paid for the wedding... not knowing anymore than what you have shared - it seems to me she is just being more traditional and not trying to steal the limelight etc. it is always made known who is hosting a shower etc, so to me it seems more like that than anything else.