More bickering as we get closer to the wedding...

Thanks you guys! I feel better at least knowing it's not just us being extra crazy as of late. I have most of everything taken care of, but some extra expenses have come up so we've not been able to do our usual nights out. I know we both get frustrated about that. It's strange because normally we are pretty fun and we don't normally take anything too seriously. It's strange, but I think we will still do some sort of counseling. I'm just normally a pretty private person so I find talking to someone I don't know so difficult. He's even more reserved than I am, so we'll see how it goes.

Not really...I don't think we were snappy about non-wedding stuff.

No we did disagree on wedding stuff...

Yep! And it sux...

My FH and I have been fighting more as well. Between the wedding, my new job, him working extra hours, and buying a house, we really didn't think things through. Whenever we fight, we try to remind each other that it is stress and to relax. It doesn't always work, but we do make a point to never go to bed mad at each other.

Yep! Right there with ya. We have become the Bickersons! We have basically 3 months left, throw in me losing my job 2 months ago, trying to combine two houses in order to move, and a minor health scare... Our communication skills have royally sucked as of late.

So glad I had us start pre-marital counseling when I did. It has saved small bits of our sanity.

I'm with you!!! Plus on top of planning and family stress, FH just accepted a job in Key West so we're also moving! Long story short, I recently cried over a winter coat..... I'm not proud....

I'm so thankful for premarital counseling right now! On the bright side, FH is aware of the stress and bickering so he's really stepping up with the move.

I can't wait for October! But I'm also looking forward to the calm after all of this.

FH and I get into little arguments too especially with the wedding being less than 3 months away what I do is usually walk away to another room and give him space and we are good again we've both noticed it and are ready to just enjoy the day and go on our honeymoon

No bickering here!

Me and FH only argue about petty stuff in our relationship. There has been no arguing or bickering during our wedding planning because he doesn't involve himself too much and when he does I actually appreciate his help. However I know as the wedding day gets closer and I continuously tell him his one job is to get his mother there to the ceremony on time he will get annoyed. So I think you and your FH are fine..its just the stresses of planning.

FH is getting snippy the closer to the wedding & that causes me to shut down a bit - neither is great/working on it. I think FH just wants to have everything checked off the list ASAP & like last night...I wanted to talk about doing kid meals to help offset the cost of adding wine to the beer/soda bev package. He shut that down quick because we've already decided on beer/soda & he can't stand when I want to change something that has already been checked off the list.

So, this is pretty important to me/worth the fight, so I'll try to have that c o n v e r s a t i o n with him again tonight.

Oh. my. gawd. For me, it's almost gotten to be too much, considering we've NEVER argued like this throughout our entire relationship. Everything always came so easy for us. I find myself asking myself, "is this really how our marriage is going to start?", but then I think about what it is that we're arguing over: small, petty stuff. Our friends reassure us that after the wedding is over, life goes back to normal. For us, I'm the super stressed, emotional, overwhelmed one and I can cry at the drop of a pin. FH is stubborn so he doesn't always make it better. But when it gets really bad, we try to just turn off from the wedding and take time to spend quality time with each other, whether it be going on a date or snuggling up on the couch and watching a movie. It helps us get back on track and remember what we love about each other.

...But god damn, I can't wait till this shit is over and for him to be my husband already. I never knew planning a wedding was sooooo stressful.

When FH and I bicker I try to step back and separate the things that are stressing me out. So yesterday for example, I've been stressing over work and I'm nonstop on my iPad planning or worrying about various things. We decided to go for a walk and I forced myself to clear my head. We walked around town for 30 minutes and just talked about houses and apartments that we saw and what kinds we liked. It was really relaxing and then I ate some Halo Top (guilt free!) ice cream while we watched Harry Potter

Yes definitely! We are also both going through work stress and trying to buy a new house. Its overwhelming. Honestly, I'm trying to use this time to figure out how to best handle stress and communicate with FH. I know things will get better, but this won't be the only major life in our marriage and we need to learn how to handle things without killing each other lol.

I think it's normal. I know it's me for the most part. I am a big planner and get really stressed out whenever little things for the wedding go wrong and then I become pretty snippy

@catlady I know what you mean. All our payments are now starting to really come due and it's just really requiring us to tighten the purse string. We haven't been able to take as many dates or weekend getaways, which I'm sure is making things worse. FH has been very "whatever you want dear" this whole time, but NOW he's deciding to voice his opinions. Now that everything is booked. Ugh. Lame. I started really reconsidering my decor choices and have stopped looking on Pinterest because there's so many other ideas I've been getting overwhelmed. His family has been extra annoying so that doesn't help either. Jesus help me. Lol.

I think it's common, and does fade after the wedding. As one of the PP's said, if you can take some time and just "step away" from wedding planning, be it a weekend, a day, heck, even an HOUR - and not talk about or discuss "the wedding". If you're living together now, perhaps decide that one meal a week will be a "wedding free zone" - no talk about it at all.

From what I've read in these forums, it seems like things get better after the wedding. Unfortunately one of FH's GM just divorced from his wife and it's got him extra stressed because now he's also worried about GM's drinking.