More bickering as we get closer to the wedding...

I think it's pretty normal.

Yup. I was a basket case and cried over everything. My husband couldn't understand why which made me cry more. Hot mess.

Ugh. Bleh... it's so weird I'm not used to it.

@Jennifer any tips on how to deal with it? Currently I find he's more the emotional one... somehow I'm the one keeping it mostly together...

The stress of wedding planning gets to us all. And unfortunately many times we lash out at whoever is closest, which may just so happen to be our fiances.

When FH and I start bickering we realize that its a sign we are both stressed/overworked and we need time for us. So we plan a day or night to go do something, whether its a dinner out, playing video games on the couch, go hiking, whatever we feel like. And we just enjoy each others company and remember why we fell in love in the first place.

If you are fairly set with your planning or don't have to do anything major for the wedding right now I would seriously recommend taking a break and not talking about the wedding for a few days/week. Cook dinner together, go for walks, whatever you enjoy as a couple and try to reconnect. Sometimes the best thing is to take a step back and breathe.

My H and I bicker pretty much non-stop, so I probably wouldn't have noticed an increase or decrease around the wedding lol

I think the answer to this depends on your relationship and what you normally experience as a couple. As long as you aren't going to bed pissed off at each other all the time, and you're actually talking out your frustrations I don't think there is anything wrong with bickering. No reason to be embarrassed!

Do you guys have everything planned? All vendors picked? Are you doing a lot of DIY stuff? I felt like once all of the decisions had been made things finally mellowed out for me. Unfortunately I didn't get all of the little details done until about 2 weeks out. Maybe if you can get as much done as possible he will be able to relax a little bit. I also take xanax which helped haha. Try your best to stay calm even when he isn't. When I was stressed about something ridiculous and my husband told me how nuts I was being that made me defensive and it made everything worse. If he snaps or bickers at you try to keep a level head.

I'm over a year away and I already noticed that we bicker more every time there's added stress of discussing a house and the wedding while saving money. I've been told it's normal and always after we bicker my FH tries to be super sweet because we both don't want to be like that. It's like stress brings out the worst in people.

I think this is very normal. The more stressed we are about the wedding, the more FH and I bicker. It has gotten worse as the wedding gets closer, so recently we started making conscious efforts to restrain from lashing out at each other over stupid, little things. Doesn't work always, but just being aware that wedding stress is the main reason for our increased bickering helps.

We have definitely noticed more stupid arguments as well. We agreed to try to communicate better and remember to respect each other. Times are stressful right now but it will all be worth it.

The stress is causing conflict, and as a result you are not communicating effectively. The honeymoon phase is over and now this is real life. Set yourself up for effective communication and productive fights and go to couples/premarital counseling. I cannot recommend it enough. This isn't the first stressful time period in your life and it won't be the last. Set yourself up right before marriage!

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I heard the week of is the worst and you'll fight over stupid things, so you have to remember you love each other and you'll get over it after the wedding. So don't worry! Hang tight

FILs were only engaged for about three months before they got married. FMIL told me it's the most they have fought during their entire relationship. It's a stressful time.

Blame it on the stress! Plan a weekend just the two of you and no wedding talk. Enjoy the time together and relax. Remember that you are getting married because you love each other. Open up the lines of communication when you are feeling stressed. Let your partner know how you are feeling and what they can do to help. To prevent a fight over trash juices, tell him to take the trash out for you. ;-)

Yes completely normal. My FH went through a phase where we bickered a lot too. What really helped me was to think about it when I felt calm and see if I could find a common theme to when we got frustrated. For example, every time I bothered him too much on minute wedding details.

Also keep in mind that when the wedding is over so will the stress be over. That in itself will lead to less bickering.

Yup, normal. It's a stress thing, plus family drama.

It happens at other stressful times too--I'm taking the bar next week and was just talking to a friend who's also taking the bar next week about how annoying our partners are being with their need to spend time together and "go do things" when we completely don't have time and are really stressed out.

We almost never fight, in general. But I know there have been a few times over planning when I've gotten unnecessarily upset about something. Which exacerbates the issue haha. But for the most part I wouldn't call it fighting.

Just remember to look at the root of WHAT you're bickering about.

I too think it's normal. My FH and I had a disagreement last night about wedding planning. He said I'm stressing too much and guess what I said, "and you aren't stressing enough." Our disagreement got so bad, I actually slept in the spare bedroom. Well, I tried. He came into the room l was in and decided to flick the lights on and off for 5 minutes. Childish, much!

I guess that was his 3rd grade way of apologizing! Lol

Nonetheless, I'll be planning little things on my own & including him when necessary.

Yes I agree, we pretty much never fight like I can count on 1 hand in almost 8 years how many times we have fought ever but over the weekend we got in a huge fight about something so stupid. We were on our online portal for our DJ picking out music and I went to grab the computer and he snapped at me because it was plugged in and I didn't know it so he didn't want me ripping the plug out of the wall so I cried and we fought for like 2 hours because he snapped at me. Like wtf is wrong with me? The stress is getting to me/us a little but I know that's not who we are normally

I can't say if it's normal, but fh and I are bickering a lot ourselves over the dumbest stuff