My FH is a realtor and told me about a nice sale he will be getting and I jokingly said "now we can have a really nice wedding" and his response was "NO we already are spending so much money just for a day" (our budget is $13k and we have more than that in bank), and that response lead me to break down crying. (Im sure it over reacted but it just hurt)
We have been openly discussing financing and I always make sure to ask if something is okay before we decide on it. The majority of the budget gets taken up from our venue which is $3,400 but we agreed to that thinking it will be easier because they do all the set up, have the chairs tables, and its already decorated with lights. I've skimped in other places, (getting a lesser known band, and photographer, not getting a bridal bus I've always wanted) to save money, I could easily doubled the cost. He is def the bread winner ( I do make a decent living too) but I handle most of the finances.
His response just hurt me saying its crazy to spend that much money. When we got engaged I suggested a courthouse wedding, but he wanted a party, and I dont like the idea of a non-formal backyard bbq (fine for others but not my vision if i'm going to be spending money)
Just wondering if other people feel guilt about spending all this money (no one is really pitching in) and did you regret it? Or if you felt bad about spending money but were so happy with the results it didnt matter afterwards.
ugh. vent over