Money Tree Shower

If you have everything you need, then you don't need to have a shower. Host an engagement party, or a bridal luncheon. Asking for cash is beyond rude.

What is a money tree shower? Do you really ask people to come to a shower/party just to bring you money?

Candice~ Instead of just putting your registry info in the invitaion, you in a "nice" way ask for money instead of gifts.

I've wondered about this.

I know lots of people in their 30s who are getting married, have everything and STILL register for tons of new things and that's not considered rude.

So why would it be rude to do a money tree? I personally don't see the difference.

Maybe you could do a honeymoon registry, though. Extra cash for your post wedding relaxation is always nice for the person who has everything!

There is no need for ya'll to be rude she is just asking a question. And even if they don't do the money tree most will still want to give a gift. I personally wouldn't do a money tree and just have your showers, more than likely ppl will bring you money anyways since you are not doing a registry. If guests ask you can just say you are not doing a registry, we will just be glad to see you at the wedding! More than likely close friends and family will give you a lil something.

Gifts are not mandatory, so asking for money seems tacky. IMO.

There is no "nice" way to ask for cash, or ANY gift. Period. And you never, ever put registry info in your invites.

Agree with Analy, rude AND tacky. Sorry. But if you make a smaller registry, people may get the hint. (Don't judge me here --->) Register somewhere you like to shop frequently and you can return things you really don't want/need too.

I did a money tree and it went wonderful, it had cute lil poem and everything! But we did this bc we just got a house and needed to buy furniture/appliances/etc., my family and friends said they actually PREFERRED this over going through the registry. I say you do what you want Deana, either way its your wedding and you know your family and friends best! Your wedding will be fabulous!

Oh Good God how are we being rude?! She asked a question and we are answering. Would this be better?

Oh course, ask for money. It is not rude or tacky and people will totally love that you did it!!

Who was rude? I'm confused.... I thought she wanted our opinions?

It was the way you said it...like I said they money thing went great for us! And my family and friends didn't mind at all! I say go for it!

Stevie Rae, I don't think anyone is being rude. She clearly asked for peoples thoughts. Many people, myself included, think that asking for money or gifts, especially on an invitation, is rude. I say just throw a shower, don't register or ask for anything. If you get money or gifts, that's nice, if not that's ok because you have everything you need.

Oh right....we're rude for heeding etiquette, because it disagrees with what you did. Mmkay.

If Gifts = Money, Then Registering for Gifts = Asking for Money

Not demanding it, just letting people know if they want to give you something, this is what you like and this is where they can find it and it will be used and appreciated and please feel free to purchase if they want to.

Also, most shower invites I've seen do have the registry information on them, or at least included in the envelope. How else will you know where to go?!?

my friends must be so tacky, and i never even knew it!!!!! omg.

hahaha

Thanks for the advise guys. I'm on the fense about this. I dont want to offend anyone, so...

Analy, can i not put my registry info in the shower invite? I know not the wedding invite, but I've seen them in the shower invite, even written on the bottom...

Candice, its fine. Thats why i put the post up here, to get everyones opinion.

In our culture monetary gifts are a norm. However, it is a big no no in our culture to ever imply a gift of any sort is being ask. We don't host party of any kind to get 'gift' It just leave a bad taste in my mouth when I see brides have tons of dif parties n shower and on each of those occasions there's a gift involve.

In her defense, she did say "Shower" and not Wedding invitations. I agree, no registry info or requesting money with the Wedding invite... but there is usually some info with a shower invite.

I do hope someone is hosting this shower that is not you or your mother.

Also, the point of a shower is to "shower" you with gifts. The Aunts like to OOOhh and AAAhhhh at the pretty things you picked to decorate your home.

So, you are actually having a tree they tie their money to????

@Deana I put mine info on the shower invite, not the wedding invite. I did the money thing with just close friends/family who came to the showers and that was it. We made a registry for other guests.

Yes, the shower host can put it in the shower invite. I assumed you were talking about the wedding invite. (It's not ok to host your own, for that reason.) But, if you don't want gifts and want cash, you don't register! People will understand. But in that case, you don't hold showers. You hold a luncheon, or perhaps a lingerie shower.