Monday weddings

I would say that Monday in particular may be tough. I know lots of people who do vacation over Memorial weekend. So they may either still be out of town on Monday or back from the weekend and back to work on Monday and going to a wedding that night may be too much. I would say a different Monday would be a better choice, but you'll still run the risk people won't show. You're better off doing a different Sunday, in my opinion.

I ditto everything nursetraveler just said

I'm doing a Sunday wedding the week before you and I've came to the conclusion that if they love you and truly want to see you get married they will be there no matter the day as long they have plenty of notice

^^ Nicole is right they'll show if they love you

I think it would depend on how many people are local or traveling. If you have a ton of out of town guests, then I don't think Monday is that great. But if everyone is local, then it might be perfect.

I would do it that Sunday if you must do it that weekend. People will have to work the next day and will leave early. I would do it Sunday or have a lunch or brunch wedding.

I'm sorry, but Nicole is not right. Just because people WANT to be there doesn't mean they can be. Here is a really good example.

11 years ago my then18 yo Stepdd decided to get married and have a 5 pm Friday wedding in the capital city of our state - during rush hour. This was in the month of May. May is also a highpoint in road construction season in Michigan. Rush hour and major construction made for some late guests.

My oldest DD had gotten married 3 months earlier and was in a new job and a 90 day probationary period - NO personal time off unless you are dead. Because stepdd just HAD to go with 5 pm my DD, who really really wanted to be there could not. If the wedding had been at 6:30 or so she could have come. 5 pm was just a time that was chosen - all vendors and venues were available at a later time, she just chose to stick with 5 pm.

Same wedding - bride has 3 aunts who are teachers. All 3 aunts contracts stipulate that there is absolutely no PTO during the months of May and June. All 3 of the brides aunts really really wanted to be there but they could not. All because of the time the bride chose.

2 of bride's close cousins had very very limited vacation time available to them - you guessed it, they couldn't come. One was saving that limited vacation time for her own wedding and honeymoon.

Please don't fall into the trap that couples are so special that anyone who is anyone will be able to move Heaven and Earth to attend because that is not reality.

As to the OP's question, I don't understand using the last day of a long weekend for the wedding. Is there a reason why this would be important? My nephew got married on the Friday of Memorial Day weekend 4+ years ago and everyone loved it. It was a 6:30 pm wedding so people had time to get there (and the aunts could even make it), and we all had the rest of our long weekend to ourselves.

I wouldn't have a problem with a Memorial Day weekend wedding at all, but having it on Monday might affect who can attend - depending on if they can get Tuesday off.

Mondays are rough, but the guest list for a Memorial Day wedding would probably be skimpy at best. A lot of people go away on vacation or have family plans for that summer holiday.

If you are just having very close friends and immediate family go for it. Any extended family, co workers exc I wouldn't count on. Depends what area you are in I guess but here where it sometimes snows from October to April people are SERIOUS about holiday weekends.

Between Monday and Sunday kind of a crapshoot I think. People won't stay as late Monday and out of town guests won't come but Sunday more local people might be busy.

The Monday night at the end of a long weekend (where I've possibly gone out of town or already had other social occasions) would be probably the last day I'd want to attend a wedding. That's the time people use to recuperate and re-gather before the week starts. Personally, I would at least try for Sunday that weekend.

Also, like Jeleebeenz said, don't fall into the "if they love you, they'll be there" trap. Lots of people love you and can't magically change work schedules/travel times/pricing on holiday weekends.

I think it depends on your guests. If the majority of your guests have a lot of vacation time and don't mind using it they may take a couple of extra days off and have an extra long weekend, but as others have said not everyone can do that.

We had a weekday wedding, but a large percentage of our guests were/are retired, teachers, students, or work in an academic setting in another capacity. Since our wedding was between Christmas and New Years all of those people had time off automatically. With a different crowd things might have been very different.

Always put yourself in your guests' shoes... Would you want to go to a Monday wedding?

We do weddings every night of the week, but I do think that you have to consider your group. I'm not really on board with, "well, we do this thing every ____ weekend," because they COULD skip some bbq thing to come, but Memorial Day is still in the school season, and that may affect some schedules.

That being said, we do weddings on literally every Monday holiday.

My FH's cousin is getting married on a Monday 3000 miles away from us. He is a chef, so a Monday makes sense for him, and they also wanted to save money and have a smaller wedding. We love them, but we cannot make that trip ($ and time off) so close to our wedding. My FFIL, the groom's uncle, also won't be able to attend because he planned conflicting travel before they told him their wedding date. Do check with your VIPs before booking a date. I'm not hurt that we aren't VIPs to FH's cousin, but I think my FILs, their aunt and uncle, were hurt.

Honestly I would not attend a Monday wedding or I would go for a very short time. Not only will guests have to come from work, they will need to go to work the next day as well.

Is the cost savings from Sunday to Monday really worth it?