Monday wedding?!!

This is a bad idea unless your guests don't work Monday - Friday. I think you're going to get a lot of declines for a Monday wedding and doing it to honor his grandmother isn't worth it, IMO. There are millions of other ways to honor her.

I am having mine on Tuesday. I wouldn't pick a random date for my wedding just because it is a weekend. Our date is important to us. So I don't think it is weird at all.

I'm already getting a lot of declines for my Sunday wedding (expected), so I would imagine, unless everyone is very local, it would be even more for a Monday.

Unless it's a DW where people would have to take off work to be there anyway, I would not choose a Monday wedding because of the date.

The date you get married will be special regardless of whether it had any significance prior to the wedding.

I don't think it's weird, there is no rule that your wedding has to be on the weekend or a friday, however you may get a lot of declines. I would run it by the people you want there the most.

"I wouldn't pick a random date for my wedding just because it is a weekend."

You understand this is how the vast majority of people choose their wedding date, right? Any date chosen will be special because it's your wedding day.

We do weddings every day of the week, and yes, we've done some Mondays. I believe that's Columbus day too, so at least some of your guests will have a day off...

That lands on Columbus Day so maybe a day wedding? A lot of places no longer see that as a holiday though. For instance, I teach in NYC and have the day off however, my mother works for a Board of Education in NJ and does not have that day off.

I don't think it's the end of the world, but I'd expect your guests not to stay long. Let's say your wedding was at 6pm. I'd have to take some time off Monday to get ready, then drive to your venue. Then, if you wanted me to stay for dancing or anything past let's say 8-9pm, I'd probably take Tuesday off. Or at least part of it. This is all assuming I'm not traveling from out of town. Realistically, I might show up late or leave early.

ETA: Agreed with PPs, I would probably not go unless you were my sibling, best friend or I was in the wedding.

I agree with @Elizabeth, your wedding date is special because it's your wedding date, regardless of whether it was special before.

I'd go to a local Monday wedding I guess, but I wouldn't drink much (which means I won't dance), and I'd leave early to get ready for work Tuesday.

I would only go to an OOT Monday wedding if you were my best friend or immediate family, because that would require two days off of work.

Why not get married legally on that date then? Then have the reception at a later date? That's if you don't mind not having a ceremony in front of many guests.

I wouldn't attend a Monday wedding. Sorry , but I like my sleep and I work long hours. I'm selfish. It's a nice way to honor her, but is there any other way to do so? Her birthday? His mothers birthday? My dad and step mom got married on the day my grandfather passed. I didn't understand it at first, but now I do!

We got married on a Tuesday. No particular reason, but we only had 7 guests

I've never heard of a Monday wedding. I would attend but I wouldn't stay long past dinner and I would only have one drink.

Are you planning a big wedding?

Ariella, but if the couple gets married on the original date, they're married.

You can have it whatever day you want . My friend went to her uncle wedding on a Monday or started at 4 or 5pm. If people really want to come they will rsvp.

If people truly want to come to your wedding they will come. Don't have a wedding for everyone else, do it for you two. Pick what works best for you and FH.

Usually I would say to go to the courthouse that day and get married like Ariella suggested then have the big wedding the following weekend if you don't want to worry about people not coming. However, the 8th of October 2018 is Columbus Day and your courthouse may be closed so you'd have to check on that. I know some jurisdictions local to me that close that day and some who don't.

Float the idea by your guests and see what they think. That's the best advice I can give.

"If people truly want to come to your wedding they will come."

Such idealistic thinking. Not really relevant to the real world, though.

I think getting married on a Monday might be kind of difficult. A lot of people will probably have to work and might not be able to get time off..