Mom wont give her blessing.... Ready to scream!!!!!

But she's been ok with DATING him for 14 years? You're practically married now! lol... that's wierd. HOW DIFFERENT are the religions... i mean to me, if you both believe, than you're GOLDEN... the smaller stuff will get worked out. I hope mom can be a part of your day and your planning... its important, and whats MOSTLY important is that you're happy. ANd she is missing it

I have no advice but I am truly sorry.

Sorry to hear that. My Mom is not supportive of my getting married. Doesn't want anything to do with it- or just makes negative comments. I am an only child- they weren't at my first wedding- thought it would be nice this time, but... I am an adult. It would be nice, but....

We haven't even broken the news to my parents yet, and I would be very surprised if they show up for my wedding.

The truth is, even though it really sucks, it is about you being an adult. Different religions or not, if a parent won't give a blessing on their child's happiness then they are the one missing out.

Markie S is totally right. I am sorry she is not happy for you, but you should not stress about it. I know it's hard and even harder because she is the only parent you have left but this is the decision you made. We're here for you. Don't let this get you down!

I'm sorry she's not supportive. You may just have to get married without her as hard as that may seem. My FH is white, and my ultra conservative asian parents aren't coming to our wedding. My FH's pastor said something that might help you too, "By choosing to marry him, you are saying that you love him more. And that does not mean that you do not love your parents, but only that your bond with him is stronger. In the bible it says that a man will LEAVE his PARENTS and take a wife. Up until you get married your relationship with your parents is the strongest one in your life, but after marriage the one with your spouse must be the strongest of all your bonds."

Talk to her be honest tell her how she is making you feel a specialy since she is your only living parent once she understands how you feel hopefully she will come around good luck

I know the parents' blessing is important to some people, but...here's my take. First, if you're an adult and choose to get married, you really don't need your parents' blessing. It's nice to have, but I think the blessing comes from a time when brides were very young and women generally were chattel, essentially property to be traded.

Second, parents who withhold their blessing usually have one (or both) of two reasons for doing so: they want to assert control over you and your choices (hey, it may be the last time they can), and/or they actually do not think your FH is good for you.

Unless *you* think your mom has a point, I think the most you can do is have an honest talk with her about wanting to marry your FH and how much you would like her blessing, but...dear, you're an adult. You can make your own decisions.

So sorry! You can't help who you fall in love with, she should know that.

How well does she know your FH? Maybe talk to her, see if she'd be willing to spend some time with him, at least get to know him. And I'm with Sabrina, 14 years and she's just now saying something....I don;t get that.

I like what Pan X said. I know it will be hard, but you might have to get married without her being involved.

Honey, I COMPLETELY understand. My mother and I don't speak anymore because she hates my fiance (who, btw, is the most wonderful, caring, thoughtful, loving, amazing man on the planet - and I haven't even MET everyone on the planet!). She even tried to get him arrested for dating me before I turned 18 and now we're having to deal with a bunch of legal crap because of she couldn't just be happy that I found my other half. And even though she has been a complete B**** to us, and especially to him, for the two years that we've been together, JOHN convinced ME that we should invite her because I "will regret not having her there later." So I invited her and you know what she told me? "Brienna....I will not be attending, don't waste an invitation on me." My advice? Cut your losses and consider it a blessing that no one who could potentially spoil your fairytale day is going to be there.

LADIES!!!! With all the Love in my heart!!!! Thank you!!!!. My mom and I have not always had the best relationship. My FH has spoken to her, I have spoken to her, and she is firm on what she feels. My mom has known my FH for the last 15+ years. She knew this day was coming. She has no real reason not to like him other then the fact we are 2 diffrent religions. We both beleive in God, Jesus, and the Holy Ghost. I have loved this man since I was 16, and that has not ever changed. I have already expressed to her, that if she chooses to attend or be apart of this process...It will happen. It is truly sad...but life is sad at times...

My Dh is Baptist and I was Catholic, now im Lutheran... we do things differently, but in the end, we're Christian and he lets me do my thing, he goes to church with me. Im so sorry your mom is supportive... just remind her, the day will happen regardless, the Lord will be there....WILL YOU?!

Mechelle, all you can do is pray that she'll come around and try to forgive her for her stubborn and hurtful behavior. She should want you to be happy. I hope she comes around, but what matters is that you don't let it bring you down.

Can I ask what the two religions are?

Sabrina K, I love what you said… “The Lord will be there” … After 14 years of dating, your Mother should have already gotten over the fact that you two have different religions.

But I do have a question…. Do you mean two different religions, or two different denominations??

So sorry to hear that. I was going through something similar. My FMIL said she couldn't support my FH's decision because we aren't of the same culture. That was her first reaction. She had some other things to say like, we don't have anything in common and how I'm not affectionate enough towards him. All these things were untrue and my FH immediately defended me. She called all his family and told them these things. That was in June.

I prayed for peace in the situation. I said nothing to her. I told my FH that it will be fine. He said she doesn't have to be there for us to get married and there will be plenty of his family members there that actually know us better that will support us.

Now, she wants to know when she's gonna meet with my parents to plan the wedding and what customs we are going to use. SMH...lolol all that drama for nothing because the show was going to go on...

Pumpkin's Sunshine@- Non-denominational(FH)and Seventh Day Adventist(Me). @ Molly L- Thats a great question. We 2 different denominations, but my(SDA)denomination is extemely concervative. Im just dont beleive in everything that the "doctrines",(NOT THE BIBLE, of my church teach. So its conflict with my mother and I, but works perfectly for my FH and I. @ Nat- Overall honey, thats what we decided to do. Love has not religious choice, color, shape or any of that other crap. The show is still going on and I have respectfully told my mother that if she choose not to be there, we will still marry. It will hurt us both, but we will get over it and continue on... Thanks Ladies!!!!!!