Mom wants to walk me down the aisle

Just to add, I love and respect my mother more than any other person in the world. I realize she had a very tough job as a single mother and sacrificed a lot for my sister and I but I don't think she has to walk me down the aisle to validate that.

My mom is walking me down the isle... But i have no father.... What if your mom walks you down half of the isle and then hands you off to your father to be given away.

I would tell her exactly what you just wrote. That all though you love her and respect her you have always dreamed of your father walking you down the aisle alone. And they you are planning on recognizing the hard work she put into raising you during the unity candle ceremony.

I can see your mothers point of view, but if your father has always been active in your lives I he has the right to perform his "fatherly duty" and give you away himself. unless in your religious it's normal for both parents to give the bride away.

Wow... I'm sorry. That's a really sticky situation. Have you talked with your mom about needing some special space for you and your dad to connect on this day? It sounds like she's always been supportive of that relationship, despite the divorce... maybe if you brought it up during a quiet moment and framed it in the context of that support? Your mom has a special place in your heart and life, obviously... perhaps if you asked her to make a toast at the reception? If your mom has been there helping pick out the dress, planning, etc., and dad (b/c of distance) hasn't, you have a valid case to plead that you aren't trying to alienate her, but rather to give him a special moment with you that day as well. Perhaps you can orchestrate the morning with your dad so that you get some alone time with your mom before the ceremony?

That is a hard one. Talk to your mom about it. Let her know how you truly feel. I am sure she will understand.

Well I actually moved to Missouri years ago to attend college so Mom isn't here to go with me and get a dress and pick out flowers. So I know she must be feeling left out. I'm trying to include her as much possible, sending pics of ideas and projects, asking for her opinions on things, etc. My fiance and I have even been thinking about doing a Rose Ceremony AND a Unity Candle just so my mom can really feel involved. I've been thinking about having my dad walk me down the aisle to where my mother is seated and then both of them walking me to the officiant and when he asks who gives me away they can say "WE do". I hope she is okay with that because that is what would make me happiest on my wedding day. *sigh*

I would stick to just your father walking you down the aisle and your mother should stick to her role. Let your mom know how you feel and your wishes.

If you have a good realtionship with Dad then he should walk you down the aisle I know it's hard for your Mom to have to let him do that but I think he should and yes tell her what you just told us.

I think your latest post is a great idea. I could only imagine how hard it is on you, but I think if you talk to your mom and tell her exactly how you are feeling you will feel much better about the situation.