Mom said she's not coming. :/

My dad told me he is not coming to my wedding. He has been in and out of my life ever since I was a little girl. When I got engaged last year, he suddenly wanted to be daddy of the year. We got into a huge argument a couple of months ago, and now he won't come to his only daughter's wedding. So, I can feel your pain. But you know what? If your mom doesn't come, she will regret it, just like my dad will regret his choice. You have every right to feel upset and angry. (((HUGS)))

I'm not trying to judge, but if she's not going to go to your wedding because of something so petty, that gives insight into the kind of person she is. She should support you and understand where you are coming from. She sounds flaky and unreliable. Her loss.

You know, I am a mom and it would take heaven and earth to stop me from my kids' weddings. Let them have their moment(s) and do what is right and best. It will all work out.

This is HER taking the attention from you again. When she missed your birthdays, holidays, life events - that wasn't her caring about you then either. Sorry to be harsh but I've been there too. DO NOT let this get to you! This is only happening ONCE in your lifetime - enjoy it. Make it what you want it to be!

Soak up every possible blessing that will come through this because before you know it, you'll be back from the honeymoon and mind blown at how quickly it all came and went. If she doesn't want to come now because she can't be "accommodated" simply say: Okay Mom, I'm sorry you feel that way. I would love to accommodate everyone but I simply can't. If you'd like to stay with your sister, I'm sure there will be times for all of us to get together but I'd really like to focus on the final wedding plans for the week of the wedding. If you'd like to be a part of it, I would love to have you there.

Hope things get better for you. It's amazing how crazy people get about things like weddings.... *sigh* + (((HUGS)))

My mom isn't coming to my wedding either & I can't even begin to understand how any parent thinks it's ok. Being hurt & upset is normal but try to focus on ur wedding & ur new life as a wife. If she comes great, if not she should be ashamed of herself just like my mother. Hope it works out'

I'm so sorry. I was estranged from my biological dad for years, and he didn't come to my first wedding, he's since passed away. Hopefully you'll be so busy, you don't miss her.

Thats awful. I am sorry your sad. Family can be the hardest sometimes....

My mum had been completely disinterested in our wedding since the start. She made all sorts of promises, that she would be there 'no matter what' and now it's nearly here she suddenly has gone all vague and has dropped contact. Story of my life. But my grandma is literally flying across the world to be there for our special day and you have friends who love you enough to fly from Taiwan, so those are the relationships to focus on. People who care for you will make the effort.

Oh lord, I could write a book on all this wedding bullshit. I am dealing with Mom problems also. As much as it may upset you try to focus on the ones that will be there to support you. In the end, it's really her loss.

Maybe it would be a good idea not to have her. It sounds like if she was there it would just cause you more stress. Just enjoy your day and not try to worry about it. In the end she will be the one who regrets it.

"wedding Bullshit" by Rebekah. Date Twin you are a wonder!

Tell me one of us who hasn't seen it to one degree or another in one form or another?

Thanks guys, I think I just feel really stressed out right now, and getting rejected by her again makes it worse.

No one told me the three month mark means all the fun goes away. XP

Sorry to hear that. Maybe you can talk to her honestly how you feel about she is not coming to your wedding.

I am so sorry to hear that. I have nothing more to add that hasn't been said above, but just know that I'm praying for the best in this situation for you!