My FW is the only child, and her mom's princess. Her mom is a go getter and doesn't wait if my FW wants something. Her mom will get it or make it happen right there. I'm the youngest of 3, both my siblings already had their weddings. My mom is a little more rough around the edges, "you work for what you want, traditionally you and your FW should be paying for this and that" give ya the reality kind of woman. Both our mom's have given a generous budget, however, my FW and her mom are a littleeeee more, how should I say, (glamorous?) than my mother and I are.
The 4 of us went to the venue a few weekends ago to look at the centerpieces we bought on the actual tables. While there, my FMIL starts talking about flowers costs openly (we haven't even spoken with a florist yet) and my mom snapped back with "Well once the budgets out the budgets out!" I knew she was upset, and after that she started acting weird, so we finally sat down and had a conversation last week. She tells me she doesn't feel comfortable paying for things she doesn't believe are sensible and goes on and on.
Bottom line, I feel like it's coming down to a clash of personalities. My mom will wait and research something or a service, read reviews, and take her time purchasing things or making down payments. Her mom, will jump all over it, and find what we're (she's) looking for and buy it right away. I feel like I'm in the middle because I know how my mom is and I was raised similar, so I don't want her upset. BUT I also know how my FMIL is and she will NEVER change. I'm stuck in the middle, and not sure how to get these two, 60 year old women to see eye to eye. Anyone else dealing with this?! Help!