So I'm getting married in two months, and instead of just having my father walk me down the aisle, I would really prefer to have both of my parents walk me down the aisle. But when I bring this idea up with my mom, she says she doesn't want to be the one to "give me away".
My parents are not divorced, and I have a decent relationship with my dad. Things were rocky when I was younger, but we get along well now. I would definitely like him to walk with me, but I don't feel comfortable with this idea that I'm being "given away" (I'm not), and I also feel that since both parents are responsible for my life, for raising me and for helping shape me into the person that I am, it feels right to honor them both. But my mom seems to think this isn't what her role should be.
And then of course there are other family members of mine, who are also on the more traditional side, who have weighed in and said that by asking my mom to also walk with us, it would be taking something away from my dad or diminishing his role and that walking me down the aisle is really more for him than it is for me. This blows my mind since it is my wedding, not to mention their opinions are entirely unsolicited.
As the bride (and as the person paying for the wedding), I kind of feel like my choice should be respected here, and I don't understand how anyone can be disappointed in me for wanting to honor BOTH parents instead of just one. Like, how I am in the wrong??
How can I convince my mom to walk with me and my dad down the aisle when she thinks this is something only my dad should do?