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Devoted October 2015

MOH trying to sabotage wedding. Bridal parties. Be very careful. Go with 1st instinct

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Rhonda, on October 3, 2015 at 8:45 AM

A wk or so ago I started a thread regarding concern for my friend, and MOH being in an abusive relationship (for 1 yr), and the worry over him holding her back from attending our wedding day. I received a few unwarranted nasty responses from a few bad apples on here (I swear are hired just to stir the pot and create drama to make WW more interesting). I deleted my WW acct over it, the last thing I needed was more negativity when I needed support that everything will be ok with or w/out her. There were many responses that were understanding. So with 2 wks left to go before my wedding, I am back on here to tell anyone just starting to plan their weddings to go with their gut instincts when choosing or agreeing to have a bridal party. Please, save yourself the heartache and stress ... if you aren't 100+% certain of someone's character or even their station in life, politely decline their offer to be in the party or don't ask them at all. I didn't care to have a wedding party Cont ..

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KitandKaboodle · on October 3, 2015 at 1:30 PM
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Rhonda, jealousy does not discriminate. Now that you are in a healthy and safe relationship, it bothers her. That's why she belittles your wedding.
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Champion October 2009
2d Bride · on October 3, 2015 at 2:46 PM
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You're two weeks away. You've had a relationship with this woman for 25 years. Do they have their dresses yet? If so, I'd let her just get her hair and make-up done where she likes, or do it herself, and stand beside you (with no bouquet, or whatever bouquet you can get at the last moment). If not, you could say that if they can find coordinating dresses in X color in the next two weeks, they can stand with you (or if flake drops out so dresses don't have to match, just your MOH can stand with you). It's just not worth ending a 25-year friendship over a wedding.

And this is especially true if she's in a rocky (and possibly abusive) relationship. Such a relationship tends to isolate you from friends. So she may need you more than ever.
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Devoted October 2015
Rhonda · on October 8, 2015 at 9:30 AM
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Yes OriginalKD it was exhausting, but I'm over her, and ready to be married and enjoy our day MOH there or not. Thank you for your support
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