moh plus 1?

That's a really odd situation. It sounds like she knows the man is not invited. I'm assuming you are close enough with her to ask her if its cool that she come alone?

We're in a similar situation with a groomsman. We chose not to give him a plus one. Our reasoning is that if we do, he would probably end up bringing the rude girlfriend anyway. I think it would be more rude to give a plus one and then add a bunch of restrictions to it! It may not be proper "etiquette" but it is your day! I realize that the consistency rule is the one that should be followed, but if you are concerned that he would cause a scene and ruin your day, please do not give her the opportunity to invite him!

You have a long time to decide. If her relationship situation is still the same in a year, I would invite her without a plus one.

Yes, I told her that man isn't invited, and she's cool with that. I am close enough to talk to her about coming alone. I want to do it in person. it's just so hard because she's in SC and I'm in Va and work weekends.

Omg, he would 1000% cause a scene. he's hard core on the right, and my FFIL is very much on the left. I've seen the arguments they had over politics in the past. I just DON'T want that kind of drama at my wedding.

Well, like Caytlyn said, you still have a long time to decide. I would reassess the situation closer to time you would like to send out invites. Regardless, it sounds like she will be understanding if you prefer her to come alone.

It will probably be the same situation, especially since the loan for her condo is in his name.

Definitely! Yeah you take charge and put your foot down! If she complains, honestly, its not her day! He could be a safety issue to you or your other guests, so he should not be a plus one. You've got this!!

Yes, true. I do have a long time to decide. I'm just trying to narrow things as much as possible and know what our count would be. we're planning to pay for the whole things ourselves and have set up a very strict savings plan.

She's not the type of person to complain, but I get your point. He could very well be a safety issue, as seen through past arguments.

I can relate to that. It was really hard to narrow down our count when we first started planning. We've managed to stay around the number I originally wanted, but it has fluctuated a lot!

I would currently factor in a plus one for her on your guest list. Anything could happen in the next year and it's easier to remove a guest from the list before invites/final count lists are submitted then to add.. who knows, she may meet Mr. Right between now and then! As you get closer to sending invites, then reevaluate and talk with her. I think it is one thing to say no to this guy, but to limit her of a plus one entirely is a bit harsh.

Unless she's asked for a plus one, I think you are fine. She will be super busy that entire weekend anyway.

It's nice to have a friend who will get it then!! I hope your day is amazing!!

Not my MOH, but one of my girlfriends is also with a guy twice her age who also happens to be an a**hole. I told her bluntly that he is not to come and she was fine with it too. She's looking for a night out with us girls.

As for my MOH who is single, I did give her a plus one on the condition that it needs to be someone that I know and okay with having around.

We're pretty much narrowed it down! We recently added a couple who we weren't originally planning inviting, but they're inviting us to their wedding. it's one of my FH's neighbors who he was sort of close with. wedding politics

True. I could factor in a plus-one for now, but I highly doubt she'd start dating someone new in the next year or so. Her situation is definitely unique

She sort of alluded to a plus one, which was this guy. But this was before I talked to her about him. she hasn't inquired about bringing someone since our chat.

Thank you! we've got a long ways to go! I just want it to be here already

There's always that one rotten person ...