MOH disappointment

Sam, what I have found out throughout this process is that you don't expect your bridal party to do things for you. Mine have offered the help with numerous things. Some people do not want to help or do not have time to help and you cannot penalize them for lack of assistance. They are not hired help, you cannot be mad at them when they do not do things you want them to do. Your MOH is a mother, I am sure she is quite busy with her own life. I suggest perhaps asking her how she is doing. My MOH is pregnant and I try not to bring up wedding stuff to her. I ask her how she is feeling, how her work is going with her feeling ill everyday. I ask about her personal life. The wedding is a very minor detail in her life right now. When you asked her to be your MOH, you did so because she is important to you, now make her feel that. You cannot demote her, this is not a paying job. The BM' that are willing to help should not get promoted based upon their performance of their bridesmaid "duties". Gold star for you, gold star for you, no Gold star for you MOH, you no help!

Take a step back and relax. Not everyone is focused on your wedding. Some people do not have time to help. The way it sounds like you are handling this situation, I wouldn't respond to you either. Please think of her for once. Bridesmaids only job is to get a dress and not be drunk on the day of the wedding until at least after the pictures are taken

Good luck, hopefully you gain some perspective and stop alienating your bridal party.

@ Kimberly - I just choked on my coffee with the "glitter covered wedding slave" comment!

@ Sam - It's nice that other members of your BP are helping out but it's not expected of them. Maybe your MOH has things going on in her life that's more important than a shower or bachelorette party.

Seriously - you are being a dick. Apologize and be a good friend.

One and only post and just too much drama. I call MUD. If not, Bridezilla, thy name is Sam.

When you asked her to be your MOH did you even ask what she would like to contribute if anything? Did she say, " I want to throw a shower for you. I want to help you with decorations. I want to plan your bach party."? If no. Then you're in the wrong here. I'm sorry she is ignoring your calls but maybe she is pissed that you are just expecting her to do all of this. When I asked my bridesmaids I told them the only thing I needed from them was for them to buy a dress and show up. I asked my sister if she wold like to throw a shower and I asked my bff if she wanted to throw the bach party. Both were super excited to help. But I would NEVER expect it from them.

Is there a troll in the dungeon?

#glittercoveredweddingslave

ETA: @Kimberly I'm so glad we're carrying this phrase into infamy! I didn't even read past OP just posted then went back to read and saw you beat me to it Hopefully, it becomes a WW staple.

^Yaaaas. Just so everyone knows @Elizabeth came up with the "glitter covered wedding slave" but I love using it when it's appropriate. And I agree, it needs to be a WW Staple!

OP disappeared. Starting to feel a little trollish

I'm also confused as to how you can move someone from "Maid of Honor" to "Matron of Honor". Do you know the difference between the two?

Pretty sure that this is a troll. No reply to any of our comments.

I know this strand is probably over, but I feel as if people are being so harsh.
When asking someone to be in your wedding party, be clear of your expectations for the position (help with registry, shower/party planning, general advice, assistance with bustling/ going to bathroom on wedding day, etc). Be open minded when they respond. That way they know what you want, and if they think it’s too much responsibility, they can be upfront with you.
There’s more to being in the wedding party than just buying the dress and showing up, so that’s BS. I would never do that to a friend. But if they don’t know what you want or what you expect, they can’t help you. So, again, communicate.