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moh Dilemma

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Jasmine, on March 7, 2020 at 5:10 AM

So yesterday my sister who is in college told me that she feels bad that I’ve chosen her as maid of honor because we’re not in the same city and she’s not readily available for me. She basically expressed that she wants me to have the experience of having my MOH in close proximity and basically relinquished her title to an extent. She said she would still love to be it, but she just felt like I wasn’t going to get the best support from her. I did have some reservations about having her as my MOH because she is still in college and she’s way younger than me. I asked her how she felt about sharing the title with another one of my bridesmaids (I have 7 + 1 jr bridesmaid). She said she was fine with it, but I’m not sure how the other girl who I would choose would feel about sharing the title. I haven’t asked any of my girls to be in the wedding yet, so it’s not like my friend would know that she wasn’t my first choice as MOH, but I just need help!

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Bride2020 · on March 12, 2020 at 4:41 PM
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Keep the honesty flowing! I would suggest not having the title be something shared, that does work for some people, but whoever the other person is might likely feel kind of resentful doing a lot of the work your sister has expressed she doesn't feel she can offer up at the moment. Ask someone else, if it comes up, just say you originally asked your sister but she turned it down, not a big deal unless you lie about it
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Krys · on March 13, 2020 at 3:13 PM
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I am in the exact same boat. I ended up choosing two MOH's. One that lives local and can be more present and help out. The second that lives 3 hours away but I really wanted her to be MOH. They're completely fine with sharing that title, especially since i have 6 girls on my side (4 bridesmaids and 2 MOH's). I say it's your wedding and you should do whatever you want. Forget about the "rules". I don't think anyone would be upset about getting promoted to MOH from BM.
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