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Zilda
Beginner September 2017

MOH cant make it to my rehearsal

Zilda, on July 15, 2017 at 6:52 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 27

I just found out my MOH can't make it to my wedding rehearsal. Her husband's family planned a last minute family vacation. She'll be flying back at 11:30 PM the night before the wedding. I'm trying really hard not to freak out but I'm freaking out. There's nothing I can do about it, but it still really makes me sad. Her husband's parents are both elderly so the family vacation is a way for them all to spend time together. My MOH mentioned I could bump her down to a BM but I don't want to do that. So my question is how important is the rehearsal? Will it be okay? Any advice or words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated.

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Latest activity by TrashWaifu, on July 16, 2017 at 4:11 PM
  • Jessica
    Devoted June 2017
    Jessica ·
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    I didn't think the rehearsal was that important, the majority of our wedding party actually missed ours including my MOH and everything was fine.

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  • Zilda
    Beginner September 2017
    Zilda ·
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    @MrsWrs shes flying in at 11:30 PM and the wedding is luckily not until 4:30 PM Saturday.

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  • J. Clo
    Master May 2018
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    It will be fine. It is not that important for her to be at the rehearsal. Most important is for her to know how to bustle your dress which she should know before the rehearsal dinner.

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  • BeachBride612
    Devoted June 2018
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    It seems like she is still really supportive if she is making sure to be there for the wedding and is understanding . I would not worry about it! You can tell her anything important

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  • Constance
    VIP October 2017
    Constance ·
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    It's not that important. Someone can get her up to speed quickly before the ceremony.

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  • A. L.
    Master July 2017
    A. L. ·
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    I don't think a rehearsal is that important. I would be concerned about such a late flight, though, because what if it gets delayed? I'm sorry, that sucks.

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  • Sheri
    Super May 2020
    Sheri ·
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    I would have to say everything should be fine don't worry God is in control.

    I will have to say kudos to your MOH for 1st her humble willingness to bump herself to be a bridesmaid that says something about her humble character. she is going to be quite exhausted from her trip to stand up for you but I have no Doubt her friendship for you will pull her thru.

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  • Nicole2017
    Master August 2017
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    Don't worry it's not that important! While I know you'd love to have her there to share the day with, it won't affect the wedding day at all. I made sure to tell all my bridal party the rehearsal is completely optional and not to worry if they can't come since it's a Thursday night

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  • Kaitlynd
    Expert September 2017
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    It'll be fine. If you have a DOC, they will tell her where to stand, when to start walking, and then can motion to her when it's time for the recessional.

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  • Colleen
    Super October 2017
    Colleen ·
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    I dont think the rehearsal is that important if she cant make it. Due to majority of our BP being out of town we planned ours a little later the night before so they could have a chance at making it but hopefully not having to take off of work, majority of them have a 2-3 hr drive. But I also told them if they cant make it, it's fine.

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  • melanie
    Master August 2017
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    It will be fine dont worry

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  • Meagen
    VIP October 2017
    Meagen ·
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    I'm having a longer, religious ceremony that the MOH has a role in, so I would be concerned if mine couldn't make it to the rehearsal. I'd also be concerned about that late flight.

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  • Christina
    VIP September 2017
    Christina ·
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    Not important at all. We might not even have one. If your family and friends are anything like ours, they won't pay attention and will forget before dinner.

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  • Mrs. Coakley
    Master June 2017
    Mrs. Coakley ·
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    It'll be fine! We had a groomsman miss our rehearsal, and he did just fine in the wedding!

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  • Danielle
    VIP December 2017
    Danielle ·
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    With regards to the ceremony stuff, you should be fine. I would check, however, on when your MoH/best man are to sign the marriage license. When was the MoH in my MoH's wedding last year at the same church where I'm getting married, we did that at the rehearsal dinner. If worse comes to worse, a bridesmaid can sign.

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  • Bluey8616f
    Devoted August 2018
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    It's not important at all. She can learn her place while getting ready with the other bridesmaids.

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  • VC
    Master May 2017
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    She's just one person, should be OK.

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  • TwistedPrincess
    Super May 2018
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    She can be brought up to speed quickly the day of, you're good.

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  • Elizabeth
    Master December 2016
    Elizabeth ·
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    It's absolutely fine. No one needs a rehearsal.

    I had a bridesmaid who not only missed the rehearsal, but didn't even get to my destination wedding until less than an hour before the ceremony. She missed all the getting ready photos and hair/makeup. We put her in her dress and sent her down the aisle. It was fine.

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  • CallmeSam
    Expert May 2018
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    It's fine. I wouldn't worry

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