MOH asking cash bar question about my Shower – halp!

This may be shady but it's what I'd do. I'd give one of your other bridesmaids a few hundred bucks and ask them to "chip in" extra as though it's from them. They can say what they'd like to help her with specifically.

I don't think there's anything wrong with offering to chip in for more booze. Just let her know you'd be happy to cover any additional drinks - maybe just pay to refill the pitchers.

A bridal shower does not need booze. No one should expect that they will have booze for free at a shower too. We'll have champagne at mine for the guests and if the guests want more they are more than welcome to buy their own at the bar.

Yes, stoked, it does. Because there are adults there at an adult party for which they dressed up, bought a gift and now have to sit around watching them be opened.

It definitely takes alcohol.

Bridal shower has to have alcohol for sure. I just don't think you need to have a full bar, mimosas and/or wine is fine.

Just for me personally, I wouldn't be offended to pay for my own drinks at a bridal shower. Both of the ones I've been too recently had a selection of "free" drinks and then anything else you wanted was extra.

This is a weird one but in my opinion, you can offer a few bottles of wine on the table and whatever else, maybe a few pitches of sangria. Then if there guests want more then they can order from the drink menu and pay their own drinks.

Thank you! I appreciate the defense of alcohol. In my earlier response I said I agreed that it didn't "need" it but I think I was just feeling judged and responded hastily. I find that non-drinkers sometimes have a way of phrasing things that make it seem like "omg, can't you get through 2 hours without a drink!" but in reality alcohol is just a nice thing to provide and everyone attending definitely would expect alcohol to be present, especially at a trendy restaurant that is known for having fun cocktails. Bottles of wine and champagne aren't really the vibe for this place but they do offer pitchers of Margaritas and Sangria so I think that's what she was planning on.

My MOH hasn't responded to my offer to cover the bar tab, so I'm not really sure on the outcome yet but I do hope she lets me help.

More acceptable at a shower than a wedding. But I agree with her providing a mimosa toast and that's it. People don't need to be drunk, it's most likely daytime.

Update – YAY! She's letting me help contribute so I'll be covering the bar tab at the end of the shower. So happy she took me up on my offer and I feel so much better knowing the party won't cost her as much, while the guests are still taken care of.

Glad it worked out!!

ENG? You're a peach, for sure! If I had a 5th star, I'd give it to ya!

Thanks, Celia The closer I get to the wedding the more I realize how generous family and friends are as it relates to the wedding, both with money/gifts and time. It's in my nature to want to take care of everyone, so being the one to receive feels a little strange at times!