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MOH and BM only, or no?

Maui K, on July 13, 2016 at 1:49 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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I don't want any bridesmaids (too many girls on both sides of the family to choose from, and FH has slim pickings for friends)...and I don't know many people that I'd actually WANT to have as bridesmaids.

My FH has one best friend, and my sister (I was her MOH) has helped me SO much with the wedding planning. Would it be better to have them labeled as our MOH/BM and stand up there at the ceremony, or would that look weird? Or should we just ask them to be our MOH/BM but not stand up there with us? Or should we just not ask them to be?

I don't care either way, I just want my sister and his best friend to know that we truly are thankful for them and they are 2 of the most important people in our special day! But I think they already know that

(Also, sister will have her 5 month old baby at the time of the wedding so maybe a label of MOH will add too much stress for her?)

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Latest activity by Nancy Taussig, on July 13, 2016 at 11:07 AM

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Tiffany · on July 13, 2016 at 1:53 AM
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Yes! This is what my FH and I are doing. We originally weren't sure of what friends would be the bridal party so we made it our nieces and nephews (8 total) but we quickly realized how stressful it was for us and them so now we are just having MOH/BM.
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FBTB2017 · on July 13, 2016 at 2:02 AM
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I would have them walk down the aisle but then sit during wedding?
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MrsMarsh · on July 13, 2016 at 2:10 AM
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We were only doing a moh and a bm but hope his other friend is going to make in time so I have 2 ladies standing with me and depending on his friend he will either have 1 or 2 boys with him
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ValGetsHitched · on July 13, 2016 at 7:40 AM
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We are only doing MOH, Best Man, and flower girl. Best decision we've made so far!
Close friends and FSILs will be invited to get ready with me that day if that choose.
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bkf · on July 13, 2016 at 7:48 AM
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I am only having one MOH (bestfriend since age of 4), and FSIL as a BM. FH is having my brother be his BM and one of his close friends as a GM. Sometimes larger parties seem fun, but then again, I like the thought of having the closest people up there with you. Ya know? The people who will STILL be in your life AFTER the wedding. Not just random friends, if that makes sense.

I say you have them, and have them stand up there with you. Or at least give them the option. I will agree that the 5 month old could be a challenge, but will there be a grandma/aunt of hers that could watch the baby during the ceremony at the very least?
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annakay511 · on July 13, 2016 at 10:22 AM
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I think it would be lovely for them to have the honor of Best Man and MOH. Ask your sister of course, but I'm sure she will be thrilled. There's no reason her child can't sit with the dad during the 20-minutes a ceremony takes.
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Lynnie · on July 13, 2016 at 10:44 AM
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Totally up to you! You could definitely have them be the MOH and BM, or you could just get them a sweet thank you gift and a handwritten card thanking them for everything that they've done to help you guys throughout the planning process!
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Nancy Taussig · on July 13, 2016 at 11:07 AM
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We had only a MOH and a Best Man and it worked out great!
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