mog insists on wearing black

My mother, mother in law, and grandmother all wore black and at no point have I ever looked at our wedding pictures and thought it looked like a funeral. You have to decide if this is a hill you want to die on with her. I promise no one is going to notice what she’s wearing and you aren’t going to look at your pictures and see anything other than the joy on people’s faces. I’m a big fan of letting adults that aren’t bridesmaids/groomsmen wear what they want and they are most comfortable in.

Black looks good with pretty much any color scheme so I’d let this go. You don’t get to pick what his mother wears. My mom wore black to our wedding because she likes the way she looks in black. No upset feelings about us getting married- she just picked a dress she liked. I’ve seen one or both moms in some version of a black dress/gown at 50% of the weddings I’ve attended.

Maybe thats a color she feels comfortable in. Black is a neutral and she can continue to wear it after the wedding. How is that a funeral? It's smart.

Talk her daughter into convincing her out of it!

I was a bridesmaid and wore black because the bride wanted us all to wear black. It is a classic color. Maybe that is what she feels comfortable and as others have stated, she is not in your bridal party so unfortunately she cannot be told what to wear. If you two have had a great relationship prior then I would not worry. No one cares what others wear rather the focus will be on you.

View Quoted Comment 100% agree with Kelly. Plus, some people just find black an appealing color. Personally, I wear almost exclusively black. It’s flattering, slimming, looks great with all hair colors and skin tones, and is appropriate for any occasion.

Our guest wearing black To our wedding...our wedding is formal , elegant affair and will be served plated courses. Nothing wrong with black.... guest that are self conscious of their weight will feel over confident . We’ve gotten lots of positive feedback about wearing black and how they love it cause it’s easy to find in closet already or when shopping !

My FMIL has worn black to all her sons weddings. The pictures are beautiful and some are outside and some inside.
I wouldn’t worry about what she’s wearing unless she’s trying to wear white or ivory to upstage you.

Don't get me wrong love the color black I just don't think it'll go good with our color scheme. My mom and his mom both asked me what colors I would like them to wear so I suggested it and it's like why continue to say you want to wear black when I told you I would like you not too.

The parents don't need to match your color scheme. They're not in the wedding party and should be able to wear whatever color they want. Our colors were green, gold and brown. His mom wore blue and mine wore burgundy..not once did we think that they should change the colors of their dresses to go with the rest of us.

This is really a non-issue in my opinion. She can wear whatever she want. Black is neutral. No one will notice what she's wearing. Do you remember what all the moms wore at all the weddings you've been to? Nope. She should wear whatever makes her feel good. You will have lots of guests who wear black too- it's a common color. She's not in the bridal party and doesn't need to match the color scheme in any way, shape, or form. Men wear black suits to weddings all the time... not sure why a black dress becomes a problem for people on here. Find something else to focus on and be glad she's not wearing neon green.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wearing black.

She's the MOG, not a bridesmaid. She can wear whatever color she'd like excepting white. Let it go. She may be more comfortable in black (I certainly am if I'm dressing up!) or doesn't like the way she looks in the colors you suggested, but ultimately it doesn't matter what her reason is. If you keep bringing it up, you're going to damage your relationship with her.

View Quoted Comment This. I would ratter her wear black than wear white!

Girl, my future mil first spas she was wearing navy (matching the bridesmaids 🙄) i said fine. Then she tells me she’s wearing black (after my mom bought a navy dress to match and I told her how excited I was that everyone would look good together) Then my fiancé tells her everyone is wearing navy (cause she made that the case) and she needs to go back to the navy dress. She said she’d think about it but her necklace only matches the black dress 🙄🙄🙄🤦🏼‍♀️ So a week later she tells my fiancé that she wants to wear black because it’s sliming and has nothing to do with a necklace and he says I’m sure navy will be just as sliming and she’s going to stand out like crazy in photos now that everyone is matching. So a week after that she had a tailor custom make her the exact same dress she has in black, in navy. So my bouche (spelling) entitled mil has a more expensive custom dress than i do 🤦🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️ The only way to really deal with this is to just let it go and pick your battles. If this is something you want to not happen than stick to it. If you’re ok with her wearing black, than just let this happen. It’s not where I’d draw the line, but it’s your wedding so it should be your call. It’s more common now to wear black to a wedding than it was years ago so I don’t 100% see it as a sign that she’s in mourning of losing her son (what it used to mean) so maybe it’s not a huge deal. But your cal for sure

And for women that I’ve seen post a million comments on ettiequte, there’s etiquette on this as well. The mog asks the mob what she is wearing and wears something that compliments that and 100% runs it by the bride.
You ladies can’t pick and choose when you are going to be hard on the books ettiequte and when it doesn’t matter

View Quoted Comment I have never heard that the MOB & MOG must compliment colors and run it by the bride, ever.

My bridesmaids are wearing black. It’s my favorite color. My mom and his mom are both wearing black. It will look great! 🖤🖤🖤

Maybe she has gained weight and doesn't want to look bad in pictures. Some things just aren't worth a battle.

It is not up to the bride to suggest clothing styles or colors for the MOB or MOG or Father's. The bride and groom choose the formality. And these family members do not have to coordinate with the bridesmaids or wedding decoration colors at all. It is generally considered rude for adult children to tell their parents what to wear. Maybe her strong insistence on wearing the dress is partly due to her being angry or upset you are telling her how to dress. Mothers choose items of proper formality, same as the couple or one step less formal, in any color or style that makes them happy with how they look. So perhaps you should follow proper etiquette and let her be.