Modern Alternative to Father Walking Down the Aisle?

Can your and his parents stand at the end of the aisle to receive you and hug you guys? Are you doing a father daughter dance?

I've had many fathers walk their daughters and sons down the aisle without 'giving them away'.

I usually ask both sets of parents if they support their children on the day and welcome the other person into the family. I can send you the exact verbiage if you like. It doesn't happen at the very beginning.

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I love this idea! Is your father on board with it? If you are still doing a father-daughter dance I think your dad will still feel honored. You can also ask your officiant for different wording to "who gives this woman to be married....". Maybe the officiant can ask "who supports this woman etc etc" and have your mom and dad say "we do"

Both parents walked me down the aisle. Are you doing a first look with your FH? If not the first time he sees you will be meeting up with him to walk down the aisle, is that ok? I liked walking down the aisle with my parents then back up the aisle with DH. Are you having a BP? If so you need to figure out if they will already be up there or if the BM's and GM's will walk in together. You can also ask the officiant to skip the giving you away language.

Celia beat me to it as I was typing My parents are both pastors and I think they use the "support" verbiage almost exclusively now!

I'm having both parents walk with me but no actions or words of giving away will be used. I think my parents would be very sad if I didn't allow them to share that moment with me.

You could have your father walk you half way and then have your fiancé meet you guys and take over. This ways you and your father get the special moment and you still get to walk down with your fiancé.

The traditional Jewish alternative is to have both of the groom's parents walk him down the aisle, and both of the bride's parents walk her down the aisle. That way, it's less about giving away (and generally less sexist), but still about acknowledging your roots. You could have the parents walk each of you halfway down the aisle, then walk the other half together.

We're not Jewish, but my FH and I are following the Jewish tradition 2d Bride described. I kind of wanted to walk down the aisle with him, but I think FH thinks I might alienate my dad since he and I aren't close.

Even without the language of 'who gives this bride away', I understand what the connotation is. I think a father/daughter dance is enough of a special moment, but if you want to have a moment for him as part of the ceremony that's not aisle-related, maybe each of your parents greeting you both at the end of the aisle, or hugging each of your parents at the end of your ceremony before your recessional.

I think you will want that moment of your DH seeing you walk down the aisle. We did a first look and DH still cried watching me walk down the aisle. You don't get a 2nd chance at that moment.

Both my parents walked me down and there was no "giving". Both my parents hugged me and DH and then DH AND I proceeded to the altar.

I've thought pretty extensively about this, not because I'm not close with my dad, but we're pretty casual and I'm not sure either of us really care, but I think I'm going to keep it in case it IS super important to him (my sister eloped in Vegas without telling him and I think he's upset he missed it. I don't want to deny him his only other child getting married) but we're going to cut out the wordage and probably just hug and I'll go stand next to FH.

Thank you everyone! You've all had some good ideas; I think I will talk it over with him and try to incorporate a little from everyone. We are doing a first look, so if FH and I were to walk down together, we wouldn't be missing that opportunity. Thank you, thank you!

Very interesting. But if you're close with your dad, I couldn't imagine skipping that part.

Seeing my old man give my groom a big hug at the end of the aisle was such a special thing for me... There was no talk of "giving me away", the music just continued to play while the 3 of us shared that moment.

I have a stepfather who's been there through thick and thin, and my biological father who just popped up on the scene, I really don't have the slightest clue what to do. I neither one wants to walk me down together . I don't know how you're going to do this without your dad feeling some kind of way. Hopefully it all works out for you. Good luck

I have a stepfather who's been there through thick and thin, and my biological father who just popped up on the scene, I really don't have the slighest clue what to do. I neither one wants to walk me down together . I don't know how you're going to do this without your dad feeling some kind of way. Hopefully it all works out for you. Good luck

I have a stepfather who's been there through thick and thin, and my biological father who just popped up on the scene, I really don't have the slighest clue what to do. I neither one wants to walk me down together . I don't know how you're going to do this without your dad feeling some kind of way. Hopefully it all works out for you. Good luck

I have a stepfather who's been there through thick and thin, and my biological father who just popped up on the scene, I really don't have the slighest clue what to do. I neither one wants to walk me down together . I don't know how you're going to do this without your dad feeling some kind of way. Hopefully it all works out for you. Good luck

I have a stepfather who's been there through thick and thin, and my biological father who just popped up on the scene, I really don't have the slighest clue what to do. I neither one wants to walk me down together . I don't know how you're going to do this without your dad feeling some kind of way. Hopefully it all works out for you. Good luck

I have a stepfather who's been there through thick and thin, and my biological father who just popped up on the scene, I really don't have the slighest clue what to do. I neither one wants to walk me down together . I don't know how you're going to do this without your dad feeling some kind of way. Hopefully it all works out for you. Good luck