MOB Trying To Upstage Bride

My dress

Her dress

No matter what guests or family members wear, no one outshines the bride- ever! I wouldn't worry about your mom upstaging you. I don't think it's possible :-)

First, Your dress is beautiful! Do not change it. Instead, talk to your mother about her choice of dress. How formal will your wedding be? Her choice seems over the top. Can you take her shopping and try to steer her in a more appropriate direction?

If you love your dress, don't change it. You're the bride, so I don't really think anyone can upstage you. If you were ok with your moms dress, then I'd leave it be, but sounds like you are not. I agree that her dress is a little much, but at least it's not white. I would talk to her and say your sister showed you the pic and you think it's a little much. Maybe send her pics of similar dresses that you like. I would keep in mind you and your FH are the main event and whatever she wears will not change that.

I don't think her dress is inappropriate - if the event is formal. Like black tie formal.

If it's more casual and laid back then no, it's not appropriate. But honestly if that's the case. she's going to make herself look dumb when she's way overdressed compared to everyone else.

Your dress is gorgeous and no on is going to upstage the bride. You can try to give her other examples of dresses or go shopping with her, but in the end she is going to wear what she's going to wear. Don't sweat it.

Wow! Well, at least it's not white...? IMO she's going a bit overboard on her dress, and honestly I don't think it's really appropriate for a MoB to wear a sexy/backless/lowcut/ etc. kind of dress to her child's wedding.

The bride (or couple and their relationship) should be the star of the show, and unless you're having a royal wedding (or something very extravagant), I can't see that dress being understated or appropriate compared to yours.

Is your relationship with your mother one where you can tell her that you'd feel upstaged if she wore that dress, or just ask her not to?

I know there are plenty of young/hot/sexy women out there who have grown children, but in general if a woman is old enough to have a child getting married, she can shop in the MoB section, and leave that sexy red dress to the 20-something modeling it.

Thanks I talked to her about the dress and she's dead set on that dress. I feel it's too much though. We're getting married in Vegas.

The dress she's going to wear is pretty flashy...but I don't think you should be worried about being upstaged. You are the bride and everyone will know it when they arrive. No one is going to give a damn what your mom is wearing...and you shouldn't either. As long as it's not a wedding dress or she doesn't come naked. lol.

Your dress is beautiful! Personally, I think your mother's dress is too much for almost any wedding, regardless of who the guest is, unless it's a full, black tie, Hollywood-esque event. I could not imagine any of the mothers I know in it. I would let her know how you're feeling and if she still refuses to change, let it go. You will be absolutely stunning and she will potentially look a little ridiculous.

Your mom's dress does seem over the top - also depending on her proportions that dress might be hard to pull off! But honestly, regardless I don't think she'll upstage you.

She wont upstage you. Her dress is very formal and will stand out if your wedding isn't formal. As long as she isn't wearing white I wouldn't worry.

Honestly I don't think anyone will be upstaging you. Your dress looks great on you. And your moms dress is gorgeous. I really really want it. That being said if she loves it let her wear it. No one will outshine you!

NO ONE WILL UPSTAGE THE BRIDE....EVER!

My aunt's son was getting married so she was the MOG. She had 2 outfit changes and did anyone even pay her attention no!! Her dress is super fancy but even then bride gets all the attention anyway

Thanks everyone, I feel a lot better. We don't have the greatest relationship. So that's what kind of worried me too.

Nobody will upstage you on your wedding day. All eyes will be on you and FH. Don't sweat it, and I think you look gorgeous in your dress!

Thanks Jennifer!

No one will upstage you!!! Especially since her dress isn't white However, that dress is a lot hahah. I would consider how formal your event is and work with her from there!

Thank you Lynnie.

Forget your mom's dress. she won't upstage you. as for your dress, how do you feel about it? are you unhappy with it for some reason? if you are, then I think you should try on other looks and see if you find one you like better lots of people have second thoughts on a dress, wear something that make you feel good!