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Just Said Yes July 2020

Mistake on marriage license?

Victoria, on July 24, 2020 at 12:43 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 16

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I got married on 7/16/20 and I’ve always wanted to hyphenate my name. My dad passed away when I was 9 and I want to keep his name (Marsh) but also take my husbands name (Sanchez).

I signed our license after our ceremony as Victoria Marsh Sanchez but realized that I would rather have it Victoria Sánchez Marsh. I thought no big deal I could just change it on the paperwork. However, my officiant said I would have to get all new paperwork and we would have to re sign! We got married at a chapel and they were so rushy. And to be honest I hadn’t put much thought into how I wanted my name to be.
Has anyone dealt with issues with marriage licenses? Is this a big deal? I don’t want to get all new paperwork because as silly as it sounds, it feels like it takes away from the special-ness of the original documents. But I want Sanchez to be first or now I’m thinking to just drop Marsh.
Would it really be that big of a deal if I just scribbled out the mistake neatly?

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Latest activity by Ashley, on July 28, 2020 at 4:00 AM

Master October 2022
Jana · on July 24, 2020 at 12:49 AM
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It's a legal document so it has to be changed at the office where it was issued.
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Just Said Yes July 2020
Victoria · on July 24, 2020 at 12:52 AM
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I also need to add that I did not send them in yet. I plan to do so tomorrow. But I guess this means I need to get them re printed and re signed?
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Kimistar · on July 24, 2020 at 1:11 AM
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You may have to redo the paperwork. My fiancé signed the marriage license (NJ) for his best friend but before he signed, the pastor explained how it must by signed, and if he signed on the wrong line then crossed it out, it would void the license.
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VIP August 2020
· on July 24, 2020 at 1:26 AM
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It depends on what state you're in because they each have different rules. I know that in Massachusetts, whatever your marriage license says goes (based on that typed part, not the way you sign it), and if you want to change it after getting married you have to petition the court.

I have a strong attachment to my name too, so I know hope frustrating it is to deal with this stuff.
I really hope you're able to acquire the name you want without too much difficulty.
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Devoted July 2020
Jessica · on July 24, 2020 at 2:00 AM
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I made a mistake on the first line of the license. lol. I was supposed to put “the “9th day of the month of July in 2020” on three separate lines but just wrote 07/09/2020 on the first.

We called the records office to ask what to do and they said just use white out. Might be worth calling the records office for the county you’re filing in?
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Just Said Yes July 2020
Victoria · on July 24, 2020 at 2:06 AM
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That’s good news! I will try calling tomorrow. I live in Michigan. I’m just anxious because of the offices being weird right now with the COVID shut downs. We only have a few days left to send our paperwork in and I’m nervous they won’t answer the phone!
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Rockstar July 2022
Lisa · on July 24, 2020 at 7:54 AM
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If they don't answer their phone, definitely leave a voicemail, but also see if you can find an email address to contact them at too - often times, if the office is closed, someone might still be monitoring emails, and they may reply. It doesn't hurt to try to contact them using multiple methods. Good luck!
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Laura · on July 24, 2020 at 8:44 AM
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Be sure to have it there by deadline or you won't be recorded as married. Also name changes are simple if you need to go through that process. One thought, if you leave it as is then you'll still be Mrs. Sanchez. When you reverse the names you'll be Ms. Marsh. I'm not sure if that matters to you, but wanted to point it out.

In the end this is totally easy to fix. But don't miss the filling date... Or you'll need another wedding.
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Meghan · on July 24, 2020 at 9:03 AM
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Maybe this is different state to state, but in my state, how you sign your marriage license has nothing to do with your legal name change. I signed mine as my legal name before marriage. Your name won't be legally changed until you go to the social security office, with a copy of your marriage license, and tell them what you want it changed to.
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Victoria · on July 24, 2020 at 12:51 PM
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Hi Laura! Thank you! Even though I am having two last names, I will still be considered Mrs Marsh if Marsh is last?
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Laura · on July 24, 2020 at 1:05 PM
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Nope. You'd be Ms. Marsh. Mrs is used to tell who you are married to - the person married to dad uses his name and Mrs - that's mom.
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Laura · on July 24, 2020 at 1:27 PM
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What matters is where you put your DH's name; it has to come last to use Mrs.
Here are some common examples:
Victoria Sánchez Marsh is Ms. Marsh.
Victoria Marsh Sanchez is Mrs. Sanchez.
Victoria Sanchez-Marsh is Ms. Sanchez-Marsh.
Victoria Marsh-Sanchez is Mrs. Marsh-Sanchez.
Victoria Marie Marsh Sanchez (no hyphen) - is Mrs. Sanchez or Ms. Marsh, but you must sign all four names on legal contracts, bank accounts, etc.
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Ashley · on July 25, 2020 at 3:34 AM
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I disagree with this. It’s an outdated “rule” that’s not actually a rule at all. It’s a sexist guideline. Go by whatever you want to go by! It’s 2020 and your identity is your own.
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Super October 2021
Ashley · on July 25, 2020 at 3:36 AM
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I’d love to see an update on this! I know every state is different, but I’m still curious to see what they told you.
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Super September 2020
Laura · on July 25, 2020 at 11:33 AM
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I said in an realist comment that she should do what she wanted, but this is how others are likely to address her. I also said 'rule' in scary quotes, because I don't like rules. It mattered to my mom that I was a Mrs publicly. It matters to me that I can use my maiden name. I'm just adding FH last name to the end if the pile, without a hyphen, so I can use both.

And yes, putting Mrs. DadsLastName will seem really out of place since that doesn't really add up for the people that know her mom and dad.
There's no need to be upset about my comments.
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