Missing RSVP's - What to do?!

Wait until the RSVP due date comes. A lot of people like to not even send them until then but calling before the due date is kind of rude.

I am waiting till the due date to call everyone!

I must not have been clear in my post and I don't know how to edit it - sorry! (I'm new here!) I had meant that if I don't get the RSVP's this week, is it rude to call after the date is past? the due date is less than a week away (My due by date is 5/5) and I have to have the final count to the caterer by 5/10. So in that 5 day window, if I am still missing replies - is it OK to call those people at that time or is that rude?

I started contacting people the day after the rsvp date. All of our rsvps were done online, so I knew there were no stragglers waiting for the mail.

Oh, no. Absolutely call them. As long as its after the due date its not rude. I actually think its rude of them not to have responded. Lol.

Our RSVP date is in 2 weeks and we haven't heard from about 35 guests, most of whom are FH's family! Some people we're bugging (like FH's family/GM who think verbal RSVPs are totally fine) but others we're waiting on. A lot of people tend to procrastinate and wait until the last minute to get their RSVPs out...

That is fine to call them and that is exactly what you should do. It's important to follow up in case things get lost/they forgot.

I would call a couple of days after your RSVP by date.

The due date has come and gone absolutely call and find out! Just wait until the due date (or maybe a day or two after) for late replies

Contact people the day after. Sometimes people honestly forget or did.nt receive the invite in the mail.

Thank you, everyone! I am hoping that our mailbox is full of replies this week so I won't have too many to call! ?

We had that issue over 15 invites not responded to. some were coming and some flat out ignored us

Some people think that the due date is the date they have to put them in the mail. Give a couple of days after your due date to receive any mailed on the due date, and then call them. For instance, my daughter has family in Indiana, from where we live it takes about 4 days to receive mail. It takes 2-3 days for us to receive mail from where my FILs live (even though it's in the same state), and 1-2 days from where my mom lives (in an adjoining state). Don't ask me why it takes longer to get things from people who live in the same state, It's the postal service, they don't make sense.

Not at all rude! I would give them at least a few days for a buffer (because many people will see the due date and not put the RSVP in the mail until that day), then start calling/texting/whatever is easiest.

This isn't rude at all and is in fact something you should do. My mom once got a phone call from her friend asking if she could attend her daughter's wedding. My mom had never received the invitation, it must have been lost in the mail.

Our RSVP date is 5/4 and we are still waiting on about 80! Since we don't have to give the caterers a final number until 5/21, we're going to wait until that weekend to start reaching out.

I would wait til at least the due date...probably even a few days after. Most of our guests didn't even send in their rsvp cards until the due date, which means we didn't get most of them til about a few days to a week after the due date. I know it's super frustrating! Just hang in there, and then start making calls after the due date!

Wait to the due date and then start calling for those missing. I called/texted about 30-40 people and they all replied. Unfortunately, running after people is a part of it.

Oh how I hate the RSVPing mess I have had to even to reach out to people that have RSVPed wrong. They forget to say how many people, they have added more than I have put them down for all of that mess! There has to be a better way!

Our RSVP date is May 19th, and we only have about 22 that have responded so far....out of 200 people! Thing is, everything is done online, so I don't know how people can just not, you know? Frustrates me.

Call after they are due. Definitely not rude. I'm guilty of not RSVPing so many times that I know god will punish me when I send mine out haha if anything I've felt more like an a$$ for (unintentionally) making them go out of their way to reach out to me