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Angela
Just Said Yes April 2020

Missing Mom & Wedding Plans

Angela, on January 28, 2020 at 2:20 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 2

My mom died in July of last year and it was so sudden. We were close and she was so excited to see me get engaged and extremely excited about the wedding. I am 63 days away from getting married, and as I'm starting to finalize details, it's starting to hit me that she won't be there or see her first grandchild be born in July. So now I find myself breaking down a little more often (though we can also blame pregnancy hormones for some that as well). I sometimes walk away from whatever project I'm working on for a few hours, especially when my fiancee is at work and I can't call him (he was my biggest support system when she passed as I had to be the support for my sister and dad during that time They were inconsolable).


So I have a question for those who have been through something similar. How often did you lean on your fiancee and/or bridal party when a wave of grief hit you?? And when that grief did hit, what did you do to help you get through it?

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Latest activity by Clíodhna, on February 3, 2020 at 8:23 AM
  • Kaitlyn
    Devoted May 2020
    Kaitlyn ·
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    I feel this. SO hard.


    My mom passed 7 1/2 years ago, she's never known my FH and has missed so much. I know everything that you're feeling right now. She won't be at my wedding and she won't meet my kids.


    It hurts so much some days that I don't even know why I'm bothering to do anything since she won't be there. I text my best friend/MOH a lot about it. I'm wearing her dress (hopefully, as it's undergoing alterations right now and I hope it ends up wearable) so it will feel like she's there with me. And I still talk about her a lot, which helps. But it's still rough sometimes.

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  • Clíodhna
    WeddingWire Administrator January 2030
    Clíodhna ·
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    I’m so sorry to hear about your mom, Angela. I can’t imagine the grief you're experiencing. Sending you lots of love Smiley heart


    I think it’s so important to know that everyone grieves differently. Don’t feel the need to justify the grief you’re feeling recently, you have a lot of changes going on in your life that you would have loved for your mom to be around for. It’s totally expected that you’re feeling sad as the day approaches.


    Don’t worry about how frequently you’re relying on your FS and bridal party for support. They love you and I’m sure they want to be there for you, regardless of how frequently it is. Also, the community is always here if you need to seek comfort and support Smiley heart

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