Minor photographer regret

The thing is I’ve already put down a deposit and told the other we were going in another direction. I don’t know what to do. I can just wait until we take/get our engagement pictures back and then see and I think it would be embarrassing and weird to say “Hey, I didn’t pick you at first, but now I like you better” I feel like that’ll just be awkward and would be a reason for her to not even like me. Has anyone gone through this? I know there are a lot of dress regret ladies on here, anyone have photographer regret? FH would also be pissed if I lost that initial deposit but I’m just really loving the other more now and I would like my dress to actually show up in pictures. WW tell me what to do

Shameless bumping, WW is busy today!

As a professional in the creative industry things change all the time and photographers know this. It's the joys of being a freelance professional - you win some you loose some. Chances are they've protected some part of the income legally so that's the biggest point to ask them about.

It's a tough situation, especially if you've signed a contract agreement with the one photographer. You're legally bound to adhering to that contract. That's the biggest worry. So unless your photographer is an amazing forgiving person that is totally understanding you're 99.9% guaranteed to loose your deposit. Especially it's just a preference change and not date change or something like that.

As for asking the second photographer, she/he will probably just be happy that they've won you over in the end. Just be like I've been seeing your new postings and i love the summer feeling of the photos - are you still available for my dates? As a professional they won't have judgement on how they get the contract, just that they get it

You've still got lots of time before your wedding, wouldn't stress too much.

I agree with Ashley, find out if the other photographer still has your date then go from there. How much of a deposit will you loose and how much is the new lady's deposit?

Maybe provide some direction? We told our photographer we love the wide angle shots and ended up with a lot of those for our engagements. But it wouldn't be bad to explore the other photographer either.

$500 is what I've already paid, the other photographer would probably be about the same. I think maybe I'm just having an internal bridezilla panic moment maybe, and there really is no reason to panic. Just second guessing my decision and wondering if I should've just gone with FH's preference.

edit: Laura, no I would definitely make sure she was still available before firing the other. Really mine is great, I just...I don't know why I'm second guessing it. Some of her photos I LOVE and others meh.

If the other photographer is still available for your date, then I guess it's a matter of losing your deposit. Discuss with your FH why you went with the first one in the first place and what can the second one provide that th first absolutely can't.

I think I would go back and think about what exactly made you choose your photog over the other. Was it a feeling when you met? Was it a special photograph he had in his portfolio? I'm sure a lot of thought went into it. I sometimes regret decisions, but then I think back on why I made them and reassure myself like that.

Do you have any example of those overexposed looking pictures you are worried about?

if you have having second thoughts, I'd get those engagement pictures done, then see if you like it.

sounds that you liked the photographer you choose better for some very good reasons. I would just be honest with the photographer and tell her your concerns. that you are wondering if you will like a certain style. if there's something else you like, show her what you like and see what she says. if she gets that offended that you are trying to get what you desire, then I woujld second guess using her.

I personally would judge a photographer more based on how to they deal with situations and how prepared and flexible they can be. someone may have a great style, but if they can't deal with situations that arise at a wedding, then you may not get many good photos IMO. just be honest and let her know how you are feeling- brides get stressed and second guess things, and she should be able to deal with it.