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Mild frustration:pushed back the wedding

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A+B=<3, on February 6, 2018 at 12:13 PM

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My FH and I have been planning our wedding for roughly four months(not very long I know) and I had an idea we both love and I had vendors all picked out and everything(none booked yet) and a few nights ago FH and I got into a huge fight because he (finally!) decided that he wants to go to college and he'd start the month before our wedding and he want to pay for it upfront(I support this, would rather NOT have student loans) and I love that he is finally deciding what to do with his life. He just got a job yesterday(started today at 9am) after me pressing him for a long time to get off his arse and get a job. I'm just frustrated that finally after we decided on an idea after not knowing what we want and knowing how important my date is to me, he decides that he doesn't want to do it this year.

I'm more than ecstatic for him to go to school and in no way do I not want him to go to school or to save up for it, I'm just mildly frustrated at having to push it back yet again. He even said it might not happen next year either and all I can see is my date and how special to me it is..slipping away. I don't want to get married on a weekday and this upcoming October was the last time my date is on a weekend for 4 years...I sound childish but this date means so much..and it hurts even more because today has something to do with that date and I'm already upset as it is.

I just wanted to get this off my chest..and again I'm more than thrilled that he is going to school and in no way would I ever tell him not to go to school or to delay it

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Just Said Yes September 2018
Becca · on February 6, 2018 at 5:59 PM
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You seem to have quite a few frustrations planning your wedding. Your future husband also seems to have some qualms about getting married right now. Pushing back a date is usually a sign someone isn’t ready yet. I would suggest waiting a few years until you have your lives more figured out and are more stable financially. It’s amazing how much people change between the start of high school and their mid twenties. You may find you are still perfect for each other and even more ready to get married, or you may find out that as adults you have less in common than you thought. Either way there are far more regrets from brides getting married too young than brides waiting a couple years just to make sure.
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Expert August 2018
Kelli · on February 6, 2018 at 6:15 PM
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I definitely think that waiting 4 years might be a good idea so he can finish school and have a stable career and you can figure out what you want to do with your life (if you haven't yet) at the same time. Then you can put some money aside to have your dream wedding on your dream date. I got married young the first time and while it was a great learning experience I think we would've been better off waiting a while. If you guys are sure you want to be together then waiting to get those other huge life things out of the way is the best thing you could do. You may change your mind and want a bigger wedding that this will give you time to save for as well.
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VIP May 2018
Red Queen · on February 6, 2018 at 10:15 PM
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If it's meant to be, it'll still be right in 4 years. There's no expiry date on being a couple.
I agree with all the previous posters. You are so, so young. I met my ex husband when I was 17 and married at 21. Divorced ten years later with a child. They call them starter marriages for a reason, sadly. We aren't the same people at 25 or 30 that we are at 20- I don't even really recognize the old me. And people don't always grow together.
You are still figuring out who you are and what you want from life, even if you think you have it figured out. Slow down... enjoy the moment. Young love is just as sweet without a ring- and a lot easier to untangle.
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