MIL uhhhhhgggggg

My FMIL and I get along fine when it's just us or just FH and I. Unfortunately once my FSIL or FBIL enter the room everything seems to change :-/

I think I've lucked out when it comes to my FMIL. My FH and I moved in with her a couple of months ago to take care of her. She is a sweet woman who is absolutely hilarious. She is rather overbearing at times though. Gawd help me if a baby pops up on the tv or happens to be in a magazine she's reading and I'm in the room though.

She's been riding the grandbaby train since the first time we met nearly 8 years ago.

Yes. In my defense, she struggles to get along with ANYONE and EVERYONE including her own kids, her ex husband (she refuses to have contact with him over nothing), her own siblings, her neighbors, I mean everyone. I just limit my interaction with her as much as possible.

I personally love my FMIL, her husband not so much. I never get to see her when there is an opportunity though. Lives in NYC and we dont have the money for two people traveling/pet sitter.

My grandmother and my mother have a strained relationship though, in 27 years I dont think grandmother has forgiven my mother for "taking her Ricky away", so I feel you on the tensions.

Wow. Reading all these makes me feel incredibly lucky. My FMIL is incredibly laid back and it often surprises me how alike we are. I adore her and FFIL, they've always been very welcoming.

FH's older brother, on the other hand...

Luckily mine is amazing but she's trying to control the wedding (and i dint think she's even aware shes doing it) but I've dealt with that in the past... Im sorry you're going through it, but it usually doesn't get much easier

Definitely. My FMIL is very sweet and means well but she is just so ODD. It's really hard to have a conversation with her. I could never be one-on-one with her and if I had to be it would be extremely awkward and uncomfortable. She has zero interest in the wedding, which is frustrating for FH more than me. It's def an interesting dynamic. I am jealous of those with cool in-laws, her husband (FH stepdad) is much worse, to top it off.

My FMIL is rough to get along with... she keeps going back and forth on wether she will be at the wedding and I honestly don't care (she lives out of state and threw the upmost drama when we decided to not get married where she lives). She'll be 7 months pregnant at our wedding and the fact that she went and got pregnant when she has a teenager at home who needs her and two adult children, really bugs me, but that's none of my business. Lol When she told my FH she was pregnant he said really mom?!

My FMIL and I, don't think we hate each other. Atleast I don't. But it can definitely be better. But I don't think it ever will.

My fiance's parents live in another state, and they're elderly and don't travel on their own anymore, so I've only met his mom twice. We write each other letters occasionally, and I think she's really funny and a cute, sweet lady. And that's just about all I know. I'm not entirely sure she's comfortable with the wedding (my fiance is her only child, and I think she feels like she's "losing" him to me), but I haven't really had a chance to struggle to get along with her yet.

Well yes and no. She has a poor opinion of my FH that really irks me. She is very old school in fact that she think I should do all child rearing and cleaning. I am the bread winner and started off as a single mom when we dated. I'm really independent and proud of where I am in life. I expect our marriage to be a partnership and she cant seem to grasp it. All of which I can get over. The biggest issue is how she thinks the sun shines out of my fsil a$$. She is extremely rude and self centered. She is emotionally abusive to those around her and makes jabs at my 6yr old son. My FMIL supports her in everything. I have little patience for rude and spoiled people so i never really get a chance to know my Fmil due to Fsil being there. They both talk about how I parent badly as well

My future step mil is horrible. I feel your pain

My MIL and I do not get along. I try. I try hard, and even have started ignoring her rude comments about me and my family. But, she had issues with everyone.

Let's just say, she gave our address and DH's new phone number to his ex-girlfriend.

DH said we will not move back east of the Mississippi until good parents are dead....

In high school, my FMIL HATED me. She went out of her way to make my life and our relationship miserable. Eventually, she learned that her son chose to spend his life with me, and if she wanted a relationship with us and her future grandchildren, she would need to get on board. She has. It took me some time to move past my anger at her... but, we're in a good place now. (His aunt, on the other hand, is driving me crazy!)

MY FH says she likes me and thinks I'm a sweet person. I personally don't like to be around her to much because her opinions are really insane. Also, on a multiple occasions she has said a few racist comments towards Hispanic people as a whole and well I'm Hispanic.

I respect her as my FH mother but I just don't care to have any type of meaningful relationship with her.

Never had a problem til recently and now I'm not even sure wats going on because she never came at me in anyway and if she did she always said don't think her anger is towards her cuz its not and thus is when she's mad at her son my fh and this time she hasn't said that she's just coming at me because of him because those two haven't spoken in a month so i know how you feel its stressful

My FMIL is an odd duck and has boundary issues. I definitely have struggled to deal with her. Half the time she is doing socially unacceptable things like harassing me about having a son, the other half she is totally normal and fun. You never know what you're gonna get with her. However, she has no idea I feel that way about her and she adores me thankfully.

All of my in-laws. They're all nuts and completely rude, for a long story short. I can't stand them and I'm thankful they live 7 hours away

Since I became engaged, the hard one to get along with is my own Mom. She thinks that me getting married means I want nothing to do with her. I love my mom but I dont want to see her everyday. I want to see other people too. I also don't need her to make all decisions for me or treat me like shit when I disagree with her. FH's side of the family is really nice. I wish they got togather more then 2x a year but I understand travel is costly. His Aunt is like a happy hyper drunk, sober. Lol

@SaraJ that's awful! I'm glad your FH has your back.

OP why don't you get along?

I can't relate, I actually get along with my FMIL waaaaaay better than my own mother. With my FMIL, I actually feel like I finally have a mother.