MIL uhhhhhgggggg

Yes...well, maybe. We've never met or spoken. My FH is Indian, so she is living in India. She refers to me as Fat White Bitch, so I'm not anticipating we'll ever have a good relationship lol. FH does what he can to shut that shit down, but when we finally meet face-to-face he's really gonna have his work cut out for him! Edited for spelling

@SaraJ omg!

Nah, there's no struggle here but she doesn't really involve herself too much in our lives.

My goodness. My mother in law has a problem with everything I do or say. I'm also the first one out of 4 daughter in laws were I don't come from money and I have been on my own since 17. I don't have a college degree-but I do have a state pension amd benifets since I was 18 years old. I have a fantastic job.

But she still continues her shitty comments and my fiance doesn't help me out what so ever with her.

My MIL lived out of the country. But my FH talks about how well I cook, clean, work hard and have an education. so as long as I take care of her son i dont think the rest really matters. I cant wait to meet her next year.

No FMIL can test my patience as much as the MOB, so needless to say, I've been trained my whole life to get along with my (any) FMIL.

ME!!! My FMIL isn't a nice person. She also feels like I'm taking her son away from her. But my FH sticks up for me, and even disinvited her to our wedding until she apologizes to my parents and I, in front of our pastor and his wife. I've never been one to want to keep my future children away from family, but she's really making it hard to want to even let her be around my future babies.

I have so many nice things to say about my MIL yet there are so many things about her that drive me insane. She's late ALL THE TIME. She is super sentimental and tells me what I should and shouldn't keep of my 8 month old's clothes. I'm a minimalist. I get rid of things and don't look back. When I need her help with wedding planning/tasks to be done, she's too busy. When I don't need her help, she's meddling. Yet, I live in one of her properties rent free and financially she has done a lot for the wedding. Oh! When my son would cry in her arms she would say "why don't you like me?" umm he's 4 months old lady!! Their relationship is better now but damn!

Ugh yes.... me and my fmil are too similar and too different all at the same time!! We but heads because we are both control freaks. She hasn't like me from the very start because I was 3 years older than her son (we met in high school). She did not want us to get married. She hasn't had a relationship with her oldest son and his wife because she tries to tell all of her children (and their spouses) how they should live their lives. My fh is the baby in the family so she has had a hard time letting go. She constantly makes backhanded and passive aggressive comments!! She likes to compare me to ex girlfriends. She isn't paying anything for or wedding but always complains about how much it's costing and questions all of my wedding related choices like my expensive photographer and videographer, having an open bar (she suggested a cash bar!), and countless other things.... every time something new happens I find it so helpful to come on here and vent or read someone else's similar struggles because it's great to see I'm not the only one...

I never did until we started to plan our wedding...

Yup! She has already expressed her disgust with me and is EXTREMELY condescending. We're civil when we're together, but she's already done some things I will never forgive her for!

Mine seems more and more indifferent about me as time goes on and I have literally no idea why. Wedding planning seems to have pushed her even further.

When we got engaged she didn't so much as hug, send a card or ask to see my ring.

I haven't forced her to engage in anything. I sent her a picture of my dress when I chose it and that's it. The only comments she made related to the wedding were "my other kids just did the simple thing and it was great." Knowing we're having the full ceremony and reception and that it's a drive for everyone.

My family has reached out to her twice (call and text) about my shower details (no contribution expected just being courteous to the MOG) with no reply.

Guess we will see if she comes!

FH bio mom passed away in 2015. But hos friends mom took him in and raised him most of the time. We get along. Plus his aunt helped raise him too. Now i have a issue with her because she doesnt contact him like she use to.

But my EX mother in law man on man. Her and I never saw eye to eye. It was bad she and EX FIL never came to see my Ex and I get married. So I guess im lucky this time around if I only speak to his Adopted MIL randomly.

I try very hard to get along with my FMIL. She does a lot of stuff that I don't agree with, and I know it all comes from a good place....but she really digs into things she shouldn't. I've learned to be as diplomatic as possible. I'll side step questions, comments, and complaints all day long. Mind you, she works across the hall from me, so I see her every work day. She has really calmed down and stepped back quite a bit, but I think that a lot of what she's done in the past has just stuck and I'm struggling to let that stuff go.

I do like her as a person, and she's fun to be around. I'm just not used to anyone being so involved (My mom has 5 children. I'm loved, just not the problem child, so I get the back burner a lot.) My FMIL and I will smooth out all the kinks I'm sure of it.

Best of luck to you!

Any issues I have about my FMIL are in regards to how she treats him. I let him know how I feel about it and let him deal with her.

When my FH and I first got engaged FMIL said some hurtful things but she's gotten used to the idea now. She still says some WTF things some times but for the most part her and I get along. I hope everything works out for you.

I don't really have any issues with her on a personal level, but she does get on my nerves. She is just a complainer. My FH told her where we planned on seating her, and she complained, she has also complained about not having time to go shopping for an outfit for the wedding (to me!), and other small things. I don't think she does it to be rude or pick at me, but it really gets on my nerves.

I am so sorry for all of you who have difficulties with your MILs and FMILs. I really feel like I have lucked out there. FFIL on the other hand has expressed in more ways than one about his daughter marrying another woman.

Mine calls every day just to "check on us." And she keeps making suggestions for this wedding but she isn't paying for anything. I like her but this process is making me dislike her and realize that she is more overbearing than she appeared.

My FMIL passed away 2 years ago but FH and I have been together for 7 years and we got along very well. I helped take care of her when she broke her hip and she stayed with us for a couple of weeks. She was difficult but it was more aggravating for FH than me. My theory was she's 90 and not well, she deserves to be cranky.

I mean, we don't fight or anything, but I don't ever see us being close. She stresses me out: she's always freaking out about something trivial, and her stress is contagious. She's also incredibly stubborn, even about her habits and decisions that are less than rational.

We definitely don't hate each other or anything, but I don't ever see us moving beyond polite coexistence. I'm fine with it, FH has other family members I really like, and I have a great relationship with my own parents. FH isn't very close with his parents anyway, so we only see them every 6 months or so (they live across the country).