I'm interested in advice, or to see if any of you ladies are, or have been, in a similar situation:
My fiancé and I have not talked to his mom and stepdad going on two years now. It will be 2.5 years come wedding time. There is little respect and zero boundaries when it comes to them and their thought process is "all or nothing" and "poor me" (always the victim).
When I first got my with fiancé I told him how much I liked his mother, because at the time we got along well. His words were "Just beware that you will end up doing something that will piss her off and she will end up hating you." She had done so with every other woman he's had in his life, gf or ex-wife. Well this last time was the third major time in less than 3 years that she got on her hate train as I'll call it, and snubbed me. Between that and other issues with his stepdad, he cut contact.
My fiancé is to the point that he does not want contact with them. He chose not to respond to even their Merry Christmas texts as his life is more peaceful now than it ever has been. (We even are getting along with his ex-wife.)
We know if his mom and stepdad are invited to the wedding there WILL be drama. Anyone who knows them, knows this to be the case. She will play the "poor me", "I'm the victim", and "I'm the mother of the groom and it's all about me". What do we do?
My questions to you ladies (and gentlemen) are: Do we still invite his mom and stepdad? Do we do so with or without conditions? How soon should we break the no contact and talk with them? (Neither of us are chomping at the bit to talk to them.) If you were in the situation and they showed, how did it go? How was it handled?
Thank you all in advance for reading and responding!